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writes:I had a difficult relationship for one year. she was always being very rude to me. And she was always with a guy that was her colleague. Then, she broke up with me and went to work in a new school where her colleague was going to work also.A few weeks ago she came to visit me by surprise and say sorry. She didn't give up until she had me back in her life and she made many promisses saying that she had changed.But when she came to visit me she left her password of her email in my computer. She also brought her external drive which I checked for pictures.The informations I have now are driving me crazy:´1. Days ago she made me see a movie that she said reminds her of me. the movie is about a loser in life, that was badly threated when he was a child that meets a slut that is fucking everyone she wants, and he believes he loves her, because I has no other women.I asked her why she says the movie reminds her of me and she changed conversation saying that reminds about both as we both had bad childhoods.2. Two days ago, when speaking about her colleague she told me he has fucked a lot of teachers in the past and she doesn't talk to him since he found a new girlfriend.3. I found in her external drive, today, pictures that she took together with another guy that I have no idea who it is, just before she came to visit me by surprise, in november.4. I found in her email a reply to a new year card she sent to an ex-boyfriend, she had before me and that she talk to on skype for one entire year while in a relationship with me. In the reply, the guy was saying: "I'm waiting for your changes, and I know you are doing what is best for both. I send you all my love."when I asked her if the ex-boyfriend knows she has a new relationship she answered no. When I asked why she looked at me full of anger and all she replied was: "you know nothing".5. When she came to visit me she said my colleague and neighbour is like a shark that always fucks who he wants and that he always looks at her with the look he wants to fuck her.Today she went out and left me a note, but once I heard the door knocking I went to the window and I didn't saw her going out of the building.She is spending vacations with me since last friday, but today I want to put her out of the house and out of my life. I've sent her a sms saying I want her out and I'm waiting now for her to put her out. She said she didn't understood my message and that she went shoping.I don't know what to do. Please give me advices.She says she loves me and that I'm the man of her life.She says she didn't cheat on me and never did it to anyone.I don't know what to believe and what to do.Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJosh, thank you very much. Your help completely changed my life.I didn't stop thinking about what you said and in the end I found it was true. When she was calling me to say that she loves me and wants to marry me and have babies with me... from a new skype number, I traced the number and found that it belongs to a man.I would like to talk to you again, because I believe it can help me to go beyhond this.Nowadays I just think about all the experiences I had with her and what she made me face.1. her neighbour smiling at me everytime he saw me, like "here comes the idiot in love with the woman I fuck in his back", saying to me "you have to let her go because she is not ready to a relationship. She is a very independent woman."How can he know unless he fucks her?2. She asked me not to tell her students about the relationship and one day one male student in her house asked me "do you have a girlfriend?" and I answered "no" and he answered "me neither".Like... "I fuck her too"And she laughted at this, like she could see it.I didn't saw it coming till today.3. When another student came to her house and I could hear them laughting and then suddently some moments of silence, like they were kissing.She never admitted nothing of course, and I was in the bedroom still "sleeping".As I have flashbacks of 2 years of memories like this I feel very sick like I want to vomit, I feel depressed, abused,... and it just destroys me from the inside.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (11 January 2011):
This girl is bad, bad news. She sounds a lot like my ex-wife, who was also screwing everything in sight behind my back. Show her the door!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): You're old enough to make tough decisions on your own life. If this is not the woman you want to be with then let her know and move on with your life. She blatantly disrespects you then when you find the nerve to stand up for yourself she becomes all loving and manipulative. You only have one life, go live it and find someone you will respect you and whom you can honour back without having to resort to looking through emails and pictures for evidence of wrongdoing. You dont live with her, you owe her nothing. Just dont answer her calls, its very simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast time I tried to break up with her she started to have an heart-atack, or pretending. After that we had a fight and she fainted. Before that she was saying she would kill herself.
She says that if I leave her she has no reason to live and prefers to die.
I don't know how to get rid of her.
In 1 hour I'm going to pick her up, because that idiot went our of the house without any money to come back.
I don't know what to do or believe anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): look dude i had a gf the same exact way....i mean i fell head over heels with this girl her name was...lets call her A. because i dont feel like getting bitched out xD.anyways she would tell me how much she loved me that i was the man of her life and yada yada yada well i found out she was having sex with pretty much the whole town...i lived in a small town lol.well her friend jacob died and she found an excuse to break it off...well after i made it very clear i had no interest in her whatsoever she sent me a message saying i miss the way u touched me and yada yada yada well me being a dumbass i took her back BIG MISTAKE. she knew how to cry at random and make me feel like an ass if i did something she didnt like.finally lol she never knew i knew this but i followed her one day she said she was going to her friend jons house well i walked up and saw her push him through the door. She came back to my house three hrs later with a big ole smile on her face until i said go **** yourself....what you gotta do is put up a wall pretend shes satan and dont give a damn. it hurts a hell of a lot less trust me......JOSH
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Change your locks, lock all the window, toss all of her property into hefty lawn trashbags, set the bags at the end of your property and prop your feet up and watch the game. If she comes knocking call 911 and have them be her uhaul. she's got to go.
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