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anonymous
writes:my sister is driving me crazy. she broke up with her bf and is now living with my grandma. she had offers to live with friends but declined, so she chose to go there. we have no room at our house but she still lives here when i am at my boyfriends. i wouldnt have a problem with this if she treated me with some respect but every time i come home i find her clothes/bags/makeup all over the floor, my bed sheets tossed off the bed, my laptop in the middle of the floor.. she uses my bags/clothes/make up and wont return it, or breaks it. she is my OLDER sister. she only comes here when she needs a place to shower/sleep, other then that she is out doing her own thing all the time. she doesnt cook, clean or help out with my little brother.if i tell her im angry about it she will just say "your not helping me out, im going through a tough time now"so what am i meant to do? its driving me nuts! she will sit in my room on the computer when i want to sleep and have no respect! i cook every night, i do my own washing, i clean the house and i look after my brother the MOST in this house so i just need my room to be MINE so i can have a place to myself! how do i solve this? i cant move out because im looking for a job at the moment
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): hey i know what ur going through i have 3 sisters (including me) living in the same room and every day it's a mess and i like things to be clean and not thrown around. So there are 2 ways u could handle this ither u get a job and collect enought money to move out and ur sis gets the room or u tell her to start helping out around the house or ur going to sleep in/on the living room/couch from now on and now more using my things anymore.These are just options remember that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanonymous, i don't live with my grandmother i live with my parents if you read correctly i said my sister is living there, and when i'm not home she will be at my house.
i just finished my degree, am working casually in retail while i search for a full time job which is pretty damn hard when its your first job in the industry, so really you have no right telling me to grow up, i pull my weight around the house more so then my parents who don't cook, clean or look after my brother well.
and blair thanks for the advice, ill try talking to her next time. its hard all the stuff i do around here and it never gets appreciated.. and when i have a full time job it will be harder but i will make it happen. thanks
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reader, Blair_1989  +, writes (6 April 2010):
hi, i have a similiar problem with my sister she had broke up wither her boy friend and also lost her business,
firstly your room should be your own, so you should explain to her after all the work you do in the house you would like some time to your self there for if you would like to go to bed she is not aloud to keep you awake otherwise you will be to tierd to do the cooking or cleaning and taking care of your brother, if that fails i found hideing the wire worked!
next sit down and try and talk to your sister explain if she needs help she will have to explain what she needs maybe a night out is in order or a bottle of wine and a good cry from both of you,
and finally you are a great person for doing all that stuff in your house hold this shows that you are clearly the main person in the house hold and there for people should repect your cleaning and cooking and day care service as if you was not there what would they do, try to take a day off from it to see what happans if any one complains explain that it is not fully your job to do these duties!
i hope this helps in some way, xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Yes she does. Put a lock on your bedroom door, tell her she can sleep on the sofa from now on. Both of you need to grow up, get jobs and help your grandmother out. It sounds as if she has a lot to cope with.
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