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*ookiemonster.
writes:Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them (even though i knew he was close to many many girls, but he was closest to me). Then, he asked me what i would say if he asked me out, i said 'No' because i was afraid that my friends would laugh at me because he was shortish + not that fit (but in my eyes he was!) and when he asked me why i would say no, i told him 'i dont want a relationship' I knew it was the wrong thing to do because i really liked him, but i get embarassed easily! The thing is, he has been out with 2 of my close mates, flirts with all of them! Yet i still love the socks off of him! He just doesn't know:-/ He now goes out with a gorgeous girl who apparently he has always 'loved', i daren't ask him if he even ever liked me because those two are actually perfect for each other, even though 2 weeks ago she had another boyfriend and cheated on him by kissing my 'best lad mate', then dumped her boyfriend without telling him! A few months before this, I almost went out with his best mate, he was really happy for me! Until he told me his bes tmate never liked me, so we drifted apart, then i found out it wasn't true and we started arguing, but we are so called 'best mates' again!:-) So, I went on m.s.n. with him the other day, he took his shirt off, was flirting, showed me his 6pack, working out;-) Should he be doing this when he has a girlfriend? At this point, i dont really care if it means his girlfriend will be mad at him for it, i love him and cannot help it!The thing is, everytime a girl drifts away from him or rejects him (lucky girls for even getting a chance!), he comes running back to me because he knows i will never leave him! he's the sweetest lad i have even known, ive told him that! he has no faults whatsoever to me and i dont think i even deserve him! I dont want him to get hurt, but he is the best thing that has ever happened to him! I dont want them to rush into things because we are young (under 16), but i know they wont break up for ages, last time they went out it was for over a year, i just cannot be heartbroken for that long because i dont want to get over him!. Please help me understand what is going on! I don't know what to do, i feel awkward talking to him, feel like he is going to forget me, any advice on what to do/say? If i tell him how i feel, he will tell him girlfriend + his best mate (just the sort of person he is...honest!) and then everyone will know...please help me,dont just say 'your a teenager,it will pass' because i can feel that it wont,i have felt like this for almost a year now!thanks!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (5 September 2011):
 You have now answered your own question sweetheart. All you can do is remain friends with these people and be the best friend you can be
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reader, Cookiemonster. +, writes (4 September 2011):
Cookiemonster. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe and his girlfriend are actually the perfect couple!I don't want to come inbetweem them,just want to know how he feels about me without making it awkward! Im good mates with his girlfriend now so if i came in between them i would feel so guilty!
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (3 September 2011):
Still I would tell him that you don't agree with the way this girl runs off and comes back and that you think you are the women for him. This way you will really find out how things stand and not have to wonder anymore.
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reader, Cookiemonster. +, writes (3 September 2011):
Cookiemonster. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe has a girlfriend though!wouldn't it make it awkward between us?Plus,he would tell his girlfriend and bestmate and I would feel really embarrassed:-/
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (3 September 2011):
Honestly I think you should be really up front with him and tell him you really like him and would like to explore a relationship with him and see what happens.
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