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writes:I've become concerned at the amount of time my husband has been spending flying out to the United Kingdom.I've noticed a lot of flight bills for flights to "Manchester, United Kingdom" and "Bolton, United Kingdom". At first I thought it was business trips so forgot about it, but seeing a lot of them over the next few months worried me.I phoned his boss to find out if it was work-related, but he said his company has never traded abroad before, so it ruled that one out.I confronted my husband asked him why but he insisted he had his own reasons for going, and wouldn't tell me.Next thing I hired a private detective which cost a fair bit of money - and he told me that my husband had apparently bought himself a second home and was seen parking up outside a house in Bolton, Greater Manchester, UK and opening it with keys. The private eye found out my husband was living alone, and that there was no-one else involved. He said he'd seen my husband going to numerous estate agents talking about"buying a house for a single man".I don't understand why he'd move like this if there's no-one else involved.I am trying to understand why he's this way, but can't - what should I do?I mean, it's very odd behaviour isn't it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): I live in Bolton and its actually a nice place to live, there are rough areas all over the country but Bolton isn't a horrible place, its not rough, unless u live in certain places, but then Manchester has lots more rough areas than Bolton! I actually quite like it here! And its only 10 mins on the train to bolton.... it only takes so long driving in rush hour! Anyway, it is very bizarre behaviour. There is obviously something unusual going on, if its not another woman then I dont know what it is. Find out the address of this other house, tell us his name and we will go scope him out and find out what he's doing. Very odd indeed! Becides if he has bought a second home, there should be a paper trail and you should be able to look through all the accounts and come up with something? What else has he been buying, go get the paperwork out and do a bit of investigating of your own.... i mean the money must have come from somewhere and if he is planning on eloping then you'd be as well to find out the values of everything before hand so u can claim half of it.... or maybe he just thinks he is a spy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I doubt this is a hoax, yes, some details may be wrong, but we can't always remember everything all of the time can we?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 September 2009):
Best fake post in a while. Thanks for the giggle.
But I must be off to Bolton Airport now, I've got a flight to "White House Airport, Americanville"
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Well Bolton doesnt have an airport so I'm not sure how you managed to find flight bills to Bolton but never mind!
Now I lived in Manchester for a number of years, and it is a lovely city, however north Manchester is regarded as a pretty nasty area to live and generally it is not somewhere you would choose to visit, and guess what.....Bolton is north Manchester! I honestly have no idea why he would choose to buy a house there, it is a horrible town with nothing good about it!
So by your husband's choice of location for this second home, it definitely suggests something is going on that he wants to hide. If he had bought a nice little country cottage or a place close to a good city/town then it might be slightly more understandable, but Bolton is a good 45mins - 1 hour away from Manchester! So he clearly has a reason to go to Bolton, maybe another woman or children froma relationship a long time ago? Maybe he has family over there that he has just discovered?
The thing is you are completely right, this is very odd behaviour and it isnt acceptable in a marriage. He has spent money on a house, he is spending money on travelling and he is lying to you. Therefore he has a duty to you, as his wife to explain what is going on. But if you keep on asking him and he wont explain why, well there is not a lot you can do! I would probably tell him that you hired a detective - yes he will be mad but you needed answers and he was not giving you any!
All I can suggest is that you keep on trying to get an explanation out of him! If he still refuses then I guess it is up to you whether you want to stay with a man who will happily lie to your face or whether you would be happier in leaving him and moving on.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 If he's an employee then how on earth does he get the time off work?
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