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writes:I have been friends with a guy for a few years now. I don't get to see him that often as we live over an hour away from each other and I was unwell for a while. For most of this time he contacted me weekly or even every few days. When I was unwell he always said I could ring him if I needed to talk. About 6 weeks ago before the situation in the world happened he said twice in one week that I should come away on the group holiday our mutual friends were organising as he said it would be good to catch up. He even said I would probably get lots of Valentines off people and that he would send me one if he knew my address.A few weeks ago he and his friend went away for his birthday and yet he was messaging me while they were at a bar so I must have been on his mind while he went away.The last few weeks we have been sending each multiple daily memes. We did this when the World Cup was on too and it was nice to have a laugh and share things.After being able to think about the situation I am thinking now is this man interested in me? I know it sounds silly but I have had lots of interest from men over the years but he in particular has been persistent and supportive. I have also supportive him over the years. We have things in common and he has good morals. He is kind and caring and nice looking. Something tells me he can't let me go as one of his mates will joke on Facebook about how he should meet someone or how he enjoyed chatting to women at the party. He is not a womaniser and I understand he will still look elsewhere as nothing has happened between us.I would love to see him again once this is all over. I need to know how he feels because I don't want to miss out on the potential of a good relationship but I don't want to be pushy or come across as needy.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (31 March 2020):
 I would take a chance and ask him out. Possibly wait until the COVID situation has passed and it's safe to meet up with him. It's possible that he does like you more than a friend. The fact he contacts you every day shows that he thinks of you often and feels close to you. If you feel strongly towards him and think he'd make a good partner, take the risk and tell him how you feel. You could tell him you think he's a wonderful person and that your feelings for him are getting stronger than friendship, and ask that if he feels the same, would he like to do on a date to see if it could go somewhere? I'd also say that if he doesn't feel the same or if it doesn't work out that you'll still be his friend(if you want that). If it doesn't work out, you will at least know that you tried and can start looking elsewhere. If he is a good friend he would be able to get over it also and still be your friend in the future.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2020): As I read your post, it seems you've been perceptive and observant of his consistent loyalty, and his persistence in maintaining regular contact. It's not a definite sign; but I'd say the odds are well in your favor. I'd even venture to speculate that he'd agree; if you wanted to see if this could evolve into something more than friendship.
He is considerate, thoughtful, and guys don't just think about you when he's out at a bar (while out-of-town); and has opportunity to meet women. Women write DC because they get upset when their boyfriends travel and don't call or text while away! He adds an "extra" that seems to go a wee beyond just being a friend. He has a genuine affection for you. The type of affection he has for you, is yet to be determined!
Proceed with caution. I am gay, and you have described how I treat my closest lady-friends. They can count on me, and I can count on them. We've been friends for years, and they are like sisters to me; but we don't contact each other daily! He seems to feel closer to you than just a friend.
I would take a chance. I'd explore the possibilities if I were you.
Please practice social-distancing for now. It's for your safety and the safety of others. Don't get too anxious and risk your health and safety.
I wish you the very best, sweetheart. Rare is such a find in a friend!
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reader, N91 +, writes (30 March 2020):
 If you like him then ask him on a date. What’s the point in waiting around for him to ask? If he’s not a womaniser then maybe he is too scared to make the first move, in that case you’ll be going round in circles forever.
If you ask him out then you have an answer that he’s interested. If he says no you haven’t ‘ruined’ anything, he just didn’t like you romantically and that’s another person out of the way on your journey to finding a partner.
So many people are scared of asking in case they get an answer they don’t like. They’d rather wait for someone else who has something about them to swoop in and take their love interest because they’re too scared to act. What’s the point? Just go for it.
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