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writes:So me and my ex broke up 6 months ago and just recently during christmas break she came down(she lives in SF and I live in OC) and I went to her parents house to visit her within an hour she wanted me to leave because she couldn't be around me or talk to me. She had a hard time breaking up with me because of my past girlfriends i've sworn out of my life when they ****** me over or I broke up with them but I decided that I wanted to keep her in my life. As time went by it became more easier for me but it seemed that it became harder and harder for her. She now has a new boyfriend that lives in SF and she is coming down with him because of his job and wants to see me. I have a hard time believing she doesn't have feelings for me and I have an even bigger feeling this other guy is just a crutch so to speak. When it comes to emotion she doesn't show them because she feels it gives people the advantage and now that we're broken up I guess that includes me. We went through hell and back together and i'm not too sure what to think of all of this. Background:She's 21 now and i'm 20, we're both very goal oriented people and both go to school have jobs and have lived on our own more than once. She broke up with me due to both of us being a bit emotionally unstable and far apart and we went our for 2 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): Her motive before was that she needed me and now i'm not too sure. She is coming down with her boyfriend and I thought originally they were gonna be coming down for Disneyland but they are only coming down for a day and a half and that "day" she is spending it with me or at least has planned to spend it with me. Before we broke it off she said she wanted to remain friends but as time went on she said "I can't handle seeing you, talking to you etc" that leads me to believe that she still has feelings for me. I have been nothing but supportive to her and I even drove all the way to San Diego(1 1/2 hour drive) to see her and that's when she sends me back home because she couldn't handle being around me STILL.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 February 2010):
 If she has no feelings for you why would she want to come to see you ??? What's her motive?
She wants to keep you as an option? She wants to keep you on the friendship level?
You will have to feel her out.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 February 2010):
She's not interested. She has another boyfriend and would have chosen you if she really wanted to.
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