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writes:I think my boyfriends mate likes me :s recently we started spending time with some old friends, we have all either been at uni or at home so haven't been able to get together much. Well one of our friends got cheated on and dumped by his girlfriend of 2 years that was about 4 months ago. Thing is he keeps getting quite close to me now I don't know if its a comfort thing or whether he just gets comfort from me of part is going for something to happen but another part shows its wrong? For example whenever we are together just a few of us he will lean on me, he keeps getting me to help him up either by holding my hand or me knee, and on some occasions when we get a bit tipsy he starts making comments about getting me to dance and how the way I'm standing is sexy. But then on other occasions he stays away, and if it was just going to be me my bf and him he won't come round anymore when he used to?Is it a case of he fancies me and knows its wrong? I like him but not in that way and I have no intention of leading him on. Any help would be nice thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Red Boy  +, writes (18 March 2013):
If he's doing that, he doesn't truly like you. He probably just wants you because you're unavailable. He also doesn't respect his friend if he's doing that.
I currently like my friend's girlfriend. I hint at times that I like her, sometimes I make it obvious. However, I never do anything because it's wrong to put her in that situation and to stab a friend in the back like that.
Set him straight in the nicest way you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): Yeah he definitely is getting far too close for comfort OP.
Look do your best not to feed it, keep a bit of physical distance so he can't be flirty and just tell him not to talk like that next time he says you're sexy while tipsy. OP in circumstances like these not doing anything is feeding it in my opinion. I know some people have the attitude that if you do nothing at all then you can't be in the wrong, but do you honestly want him feeling comfortable making this more intense? Better to avoid a messy situation building up now by nipping this in the bud, if he doesn't take the hint then you'll have to have a chat with him on the side and tell him to cut it out.
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