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writes: Does my boyfriend want sex with me? We have been going out for over 2 months, and recently he's been doing a lot of moves on me. Eg touching and squeezing my breasts, whilst making out with me, and breathing heavely. And sometimes lifting my top half way up. Could you also give me some hints on boys body language on that he wants to have sex with me.Thank you. Sabrina.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 January 2005):
 Hi Sabrina,I think it's a near certainty that your boyfriend wants to have sex. He may not have any idea how to suggest it, but I don't think there's much doubt that he'd like to. You've pretty much seen all the body language that a boy of about 13 or 14 or 15 is likely to have: the touching and rubbing and fumbling with your clothes pretty much say it all, don't you think?Here's my question for you, though: now that you know he wants to have sex, do you have to have sex with him?The answer, by the way, is No. You don't have to. But by putting yourself into situations where you're alone together and allowing things to get very nearly out of hand this way, you might be unintentionally stringing this boy along, and he might be hoping that the answer will eventually be "yes", if he just keeps rubbing and fumbling. He might even feel desperate enough for sex that he'll convince himself that it's OK because you really "want it". It means your boyfriend could become more forceful and have sex with you whether or not you really want to, a phenomenon that's called "date rape".Sabrina, this could be a real problem, since, if you're still at an age where you're not really sure whether a boy wants sex, you probably haven't given a lot of thought to contraception or having safe sex, either. Before you even consider having sex, you have to consider ways to keep from getting pregnant or contracting STDs. It's really important that you think about what's going on and make some decisions for yourself. I can assure you that your boyfriend does want to have sex with you. Again, that's your choice; you definitely don't have to have sex if you're not ready (and I suggest that you're a long way from ready right now). But if you're not going to, you need to put the brakes on all the heavy kissing, so that you two don't end up having sex just because you couldn't stop.If you do decide to have sex, then you're going to have to be mature enough to make sure that you have reliable contraception, and know how to use it properly. Don't wait! One mistake, just one, and you could end up pregnant... and that's a whole lot worse than having to decide what condoms to buy.Good luck, Sabrina, and don't get talked into anything you're not ready for.
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