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writes:He mentions 'It's a huge turn-on for me when girls wear dresses or skirts.' Here's the thing..I'll wear them like to church, wedding, maybe a nice dinner. But he's like even if we go shoot pool you can wear a knee-length dress or skirt. But at the end said, "it's ok though." Maybe a turn-off for him? He dresses very, very nice. So, I guess he wants someone to dress very girly for all occasions? I'm the kind of gal that dresses nice, but with a pair of clean jeans, nice top, and cute shoes. It's just soooo comfortable for me. I do go out of my way for certain things. I understand when we go out dancing, which he wants to do this weekend. Is this the case with all men? Is this part of getting to know someone and seeing if we click or not? I'm really starting to like him, but do I have to change my style to please him? I have to admit...I do feel more confident when I wear more feminine clothing. Hmmm maybe change is good. Help Please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): Since you said, "I have to admit...I do feel more confident when I wear more feminine clothing. Hmmm maybe change is good" I would make the effort to wear feminine clothing more often. I also think it's good that the two of you are open and honest with each other.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (22 January 2009):
wear whatever you are comfy in. you don't want him to start telling you what you can and can't wear. otherwise he will think he can control more of your life. sure dress up nicely for him on the odd occassion, but if you feel sexy and great in a T and jeans. then go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Dress to suit the occasion is how I normally do things, if he only mentioned it in passing i wouldn't worry about it too much.
Wear what you feel good wearing, because when you feel good it shows. He said it's "ok though", which to me means that he doesn't want you stressing about it.
You've already said that you wear the right stuff on the right occasion, if I were you I'd take this as a good thing cos he's basically told you what turns him on, so you now know what to wear to make him not be able to keep his eyes off you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): I remember reading somewhere that men generally prefer their women to dress 'efeminately' because it makes them feel more manly- like if you're sitting around the house in a tracksuit and so is he. Jeans are hardly a 'turn off', I've never been out with a guy who's made a comment about it before! For dates I nearly always go out in jeans and a long sleeved coat, mainly because it's freezing where I live at the moment! You shouldn't change your appearance so much for this man, even if you do like him, because you're both trying to get to know the real you! If you're conscious about it, maybe aim for slightly more 'girly' jeans/tops/shoes. Splash out on a few dresses if you want, they always make a girl feel good, but you shouldn't be going out of your way to please him in my opinion..
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