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writes:hiI am a 30 y/o woman from india and travel often on business. Recently, when i was abroad on a new project, i and my boss on this project went out sightseeing together. He is english and 56 years old. We got along well and a couple of days later, he aske if i'd like toh have dinner. Since we both are living away from home, i thought it was alright n accepted. We had dinner and talked for well past midnight. We repeated it the nxt evening as well. He was friendly and didnt make any moves to touch or get physical. He did ask if i'd like to have coffee in his room which i refused and he took it sportingly. He texted me later that night that he really enjoyed it n that he wud 'love to chat all night'. The second night he pecked on both cheeks while saying goodbye. I do not know what to make of it and whether i'm missreading the situation. I do not want to be perceived to be leading him on but i do enjoy the company. Is he into me and wanting more or just being friendly?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 The right thing to do is to not cheat on your husband, off course if you are not happy in your marriage and your needs are not being met well then get out of the relationship, but don't become a cheat, it is not fair on your husband or your bosses wife to be cheated on, they do not deserve that. If you want to be single then go for it. But just remember your boss is married, what if something happened with the both of you and you started to develop feelings for him, I doubt he would leave his wife for you, he is probably just looking for a bit of fun. You may be the one that ends up being hurt then.
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reader, An1 +, writes (15 November 2011):
An1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all, what ever i decide, i hope would be the right thing to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This guy has more on his mind and so do you. This also points that you're not getting this kind of attention from your hubby. Thing is, he may just be out to flirt and possibly take it one step further if you accept. Do you think it can be a one time thing? Remember you work together so .....it could become a full blown affair. Contrary to the other aunts I'm analyzing not advising.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (13 November 2011):
Don't do it, you are both married so do not cheat on your husband and hurt him. If you have feelings for him then be kind and leave your husband, don't cheat on him because it is wrong. Also I think this is more about the excitement rather than true feelings. He is married as well so what kind of man would that make him if he cheated on his wife. Keep your distance from him and keep it to strictly work bases. Stop going for meals with him.
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reader, An1 +, writes (13 November 2011):
An1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for ur replies. Just to add, we are both married. Unfortunately, i am attracted to him..i am home now but im going to go back in a couple of weeks n i am excited abt meeting him again. Its obviously wrong, but i'm curious where it could lead to :(
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (13 November 2011):
It sounds to me like he does like you. Obviously he does enjoy the company. If you are afraid of leading him on well then just make it clear to him that you enjoy his company as a friend and nothing more. If you are straight with him at least then he will know where he stands. Just even make a comment like 'it is nice that we can both go out for a meal as friends'. Just drop little hints like that every now and then and he will soon get the picture.
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reader, kate28  +, writes (13 November 2011):
Yes, it sounds like he is looking for something more than friendship.
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