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*eredithsque
writes:I was in a relationship with my boyfriend, my first love, for almost 5 years. We were in the same elementary school and high school. In fact we were classmates the whole of high school. We started out as good friends. We have a lot of similar interests and likes. We had a lot of plans together. We surpassed college, even in they were different universities and we lived in the opposite sides of the region. We were really happy. I was sure that he loved me. However there were some things that I wanted in a guy that wasn't in him. These were just small things. Basically I wanted to be treated like a princess - I wanted to be taken care of. He just wasn't that showy. I wasn't looking for another but there was this friend. We were in the same university. We were always together and he was such a good guy. To cut the story short, I decided to break up with my boyfriend and I learned that this guy is into me. After less than 2 months of being single, I knew and felt that what I was looking for in a partner was in this guy. So I became his girlfriend.Here's the problem. 5 months in this new relationship and I still think of my first boyfriend. I really miss him. We don't see each other anymore. We don't talk anymore - which is new to me because in the whole 5 years we were always talking. I miss him badly.What do I do? I'm thinking of breaking up with new boyfriend and being on my own for a while. I need to be alone and decide. Or should I just stick to this and wish that in time, I won't be missing first boyfriend anymore?
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reader, meredithsque +, writes (10 September 2008):
meredithsque is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd, seriously, I can imagine being with either of them for the rest of my life. Because they're two very good people who are lovable and loving.
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reader, meredithsque +, writes (10 September 2008):
meredithsque is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wasn't "eager" to fall in love. He was just there. We were great friends. He treats me like a princess. And I'm very happy when I'm with him.
That's the confusing part. Even though I am happy when I'm with him, at night I still think about my first boyfriend - how he is, is he home now, etc.
The thing is, I believe that if I go back to my first boyfriend, I might also be thinking of my new boyfriend - how he is, etc.
They are the two most important people in my life and we were friends before we were in a relationship. I am very comfortable with the two of them.
The first boyfriend and I have a lot of similarities - though he's more of the serious type. The new boyfriend treats me like a princess, knows everything I want, even goes with my shopping (first boyfriend doesn't do that).
Another thing, first boyfriend and I live in the same city. New boyfriend lives 2 hours away from my place.
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reader, TehWife  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 You never really mentioned how you feel about your current boyfirend, which tells me you probably shouldn't be with him (one of the most attractive things about him might have been the "forbidden fruit" situation when you where unavailable).
I believe that after such a long relationship you should take a break- don't be too eager to fall in love again, just let things happen. Don't be with someone just because you are lonely, or its comfortable- you seem to be having trouble giving yourself totally to this current boyfriend, don't desensitize love, only be in it if you mean it.
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