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anonymous
writes:Me and one of my past boyfriends tried to have sex but i was wayyyy too tight so it hurt so bad. We tried like 4 or 5 times but every time it just hurt too much or it wouldn't even go in!!Would lube help?Also, if you are on birth control will you still bleed the first time?
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reader, His girl  +, writes (16 December 2008):
Ok honey, sounds like you need to take a deep breath and relax. If you're focusing on 'this is going to hurt' then it will. I'm going to take it for granted you've played with yourself before now, so when you're with your boyfriend, think about what you do to make yourself feel good. What do your hands do, how do you move them, that sort of thing, and get him to play with you like that before you even think about having full sex. Explore his body too, find out what makes him feel good and get him to return the attention. What might also help is to invest in a toy, it doesn't have to vibrate or turn in circles, but it will get you used to having something inside you. You will also find that if you relax and stop obsessing about having sex then your body will make it's own lube.
Bleeding wise, it depends on the girl. Some girls bleed a bit, some don't. And please remember that the pill doesn't stop STD's, only a condom can do that, and you should be using one until you know the boy very, very well. Finally, sex should be fun, if it's not there's something not working and you need to think about what that could be before you go any further. Good luck, His girl
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (16 December 2008):
Yes lube will help also beening really turned on and relaxes. And yes if you haven't already brioken you hymen you will bleed birth control doesn't affect that.
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