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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over a year nowIt's been a difficult year, suffering from depression and having serious surgery he's stuck through it all with me.But a couple of months ago he said something to me and ever since then, its like my feelings clicked and switched off.. im no longer attracted to him.I was feeling very lonely for various reasons and he ignored my text, then when i texted again saying "thanks" sarcastically.. he replied "what the hell am I to say to that".I thought my feelings changing might have been a phase, because I was doing my A2 exams and my grade 8 violin exam for the past couple of months and I thought maybe it was the stress which was why I all a sudden felt nothing for him.But now a week after my final exam, someone complimented me and it made me feel something.. so I know now its not stress.I've spoken to him about it and he keeps asking "why why" and I honestly don't know why i'm feeling like this.What should I do?I am going to university in 2 months and if I'm feeling like this now when I can see him every day how will I feel in 2 months when I can rarely see him.Does it sound like this relationships reached a dead-end?Should we split up? Go on a break? Wait it out?I really don't know what to doI feel like after 2 months its reaching a cross-roads and I have to do something as nothing is changing.Thankyou
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 You might be the type of person who likes to hear compliments. You might feel love/accepted that way and he doesn't seem to be the type to say stuff like that to you (Judging by the text messages).
It's usually something that can be fix easily enough (if that's the problem in this case). Just ask him to verbalize his feelings more. If he says "But you know that I love you? Why do I have to say those things?" just say that you like to hear compliments/his love, it makes you feel better.
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