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writes: My ex and I broke up about a year ago due to just being tired (especially him) from arguments, etc..and other issues.. no one cheated, there was alot of love i think.. we did not have contact because he knows I can't be friends with him and he knows my intentions now.(to get back together)I contacted him and we have been talking for a few months.. we spoke about meeting but sort of never followed through with the plans... I think he is hesitant to move forward, doesn't want to jump back in as if we are serious right where we left off.. I think he wants things more casual right now. I did tell him I am kind of done mentioning meeting and he said he knows I am making a genuine effort and maybe he needs to get his head together. So I said ok, well I guess after the holidays and he said ok.Sometimes I want to speak up now and say what is the big deal, let's just move forward but being pushy makes someone run. Does it sound like a good idea to sort of give him time? like another month or and then speak up saying we need to move forward a little bit. I do think he has some feelings for me but I think he is just hesitant to move forward with things. (but maybe i am wrong?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): Giving him time to consider if he is ready to get back with you would be the best for the both of you. He might just need more time. Guys always needs the extra time and space because they don't think like we do. Women grow up faster and knows what they want before men even know what they want. What you should do is give him time and in the time make it seem like you don't want him back. Let him think he's been taking to much time to think and that you were interested in someone else. Then he just might come around sooner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): Why not try dating each other first and see where it takes you?
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