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30-35,
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writes:Hi all,So, I've got a bit of an internal dilemma going on. I've vented to people in my life about this but it gets me no where so I'm hoping maybe strangers will give me the straightforward answers I'm looking for.I'm in a committed relationship, have been for three years and we're happy. We've lived together for almost a year now and we work realm well together, we make a good team and I love him to bits.I've never and would never cheat, but I have had a bit of a wandering eye recently, and it males me uncomfortable because the main person I've been attracted to is one of our good friends.He's very smart, funny, and he makes me really happy whenever I'm with him. Sometimes I think he's flirting with me too, but maybe he's just friendly? He always tickles and pokes me, tries to sit next to me, compliments me, and earlier this week we were sitting on a couch next to each other and he put his head in my lap. Now, I can't tell if this is flirtation or he's just a really friendly guy and doesn't see me as anything romantic because I'm taken.I cannot stop thinking about him. I'm awful at having crushes, I've never been very good at them and I'm even worse at deciphering flirtations.So, two questions: Does it seem, from the limited information, that he is flirting? And why are my affections wandering? I'm not usually the type to develop a crush- my last one was on my boyfriend!Thanks so much!
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reader, JustAskVicky  +, writes (28 June 2015):
Yes he is flirting. I don't know if your affections are wandering- only you know how you feel. It could be that you are a bit bored in the relationship, and are flattered by his attention. This happens in many relationships and doesn't signal the end- just that maybe you need to feel more appreciated, complimented and romanced. However, if you do feel yourself wanting to go further with this, be sure to end your current relationship first. And be prepared for lots of upset when your current boyfriend finds out who you are flirting with!
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