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writes:Does it hurt to lose your virginity? Ladies' opinions, please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Well when you're ready for sex and all the emotions that come with it your first time shouldn't be anything short of beautiful.
But other than that FOREPLAY is key!!! Totally. I'm more of a licking nibbling kind of man. But kissing, massaging, rubbing, licking and ORAL. My god I can not stress the vital importance of a virgin being "wet". Reallyyyy realllyyy wet.
I'm a guy who takes care of a girl. I do all of the above. Especially oral. That's like turning on a girl's "faucet" (automatic running "water") so to say. Especially a virgin... b/c like 9.5 times outta 10 its their first time reciving oral too. So its a big rush for them. And if its done right they'll orgasim in your mouth. Lol once she's good and wet... penatration is a go. Like sooo when actual penatration is in full effect I've learned to go SLOWLY. VERY VERY SLOWLY. Gentle is key. Because of the h-thingy isn't broken yet. Pain should be briefand minimum. (So I hear. ???) but if like the girl I'm with is on thr verge of tears... I'm obviously doing something wrong and I stop and take a breather and try again. 2nd time is a charm if the first time isn't. Girls don't usually orgasim their 1st time I mean I don't really either cause of the slow pace but a nice handjob makes up for it. =] I'm not some kind of man whore or anything I just understand the female anatomy fairly well. Insidently, every girl I've ever been with has been a virgin. Weird? Yeahh.. Try being me.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I personally didn't feel anything... But I sure was with the wrong person at the wrong time ... so don't worry about the pain .. worry about who it will be with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I personally didn't feel any pain during or after...It was a few days after....but then that might just be me
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reader, gemmalinix +, writes (26 March 2008):
It depends on you. Each individual is different. I have heard of some girls that say it hardly hurt at all, then there are others who claim it was pretty painful.
There are many variations on what is normal and mostly it depends on how ready you are to lose your virginity and how high of a pain threshold you have. If you have a tendency to find things painful that others do generally do not, then you may find it to be more painful.
What is common to experience is a mild sharp pain at fist entry in the tissue surrounding your vagina, then a mild-moderate pressure, or uncomfortable feeling in the vagina tunnel throughout the act. You may bleed from your vagina. this is a result of the hymen breaking (a small, thin layer of skin that protects the vagina before first intercourse, and is nothing to be alarmed at. the amount of blood is usually very minimal, but can range from a few drops to a tablespoon or two. You may also continue to bleed (sort of like a light period) for a day afterward. Afterward, you may feel a bit sore. Do not be surprised if you do not orgasm, and even if it does not feel pleasurable to you at all. Many women do not reach orgasm their first time, and often, they are too focused on the pressure to enjoy it. It gets better.
This is common experience for the loss of virginity.
After the first time, it is generally very pleasurable. And some girls do in fact orgasm and find it enjoyable the first time, but don't get discouraged if you don't.
Some things to watch for:
1. you should not feel excruciating pain (pain that is a 9 or 10 on a scale of 10). If you feel excruciating pain, there is probably something wrong. You should also not feel pain or really even that much pressure in your abdomen.
Some things to remember:
1. Make sure you are ready emotionally, otherwise you may be anxious or tense, and this will make for an unpleasant experience.
2. Make sure you are ready biologically. Really, biologically, you should be at least 14 before you have sex, because you are not physically built for sex yet until a few years after puberty, and could injure your internal reproductive system.
3. Make sure you are ready physically. Your vagina releases natural lubrication, and makes you "wet" down there. Without that lubrication, even women who have had sex many times will experience pain. Spend at least 15-20 minutes on foreplay (kissing, touching, petting, or oral) to get yourself well lubricated.
4. Do not be afraid to tell your partner to slow down, or to stop altogether if you are finding it very painful. Any respectable partner will listen to your request.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Yeah, you might feel a little bit of pain, but not an awful lot. However, some women feel it more than others. Your hymen usually breaks, causing a slight amount of bleeding, but sometimes it doesn't even bleed at all. You may have already broken it too without realising, through horse riding or something. Don't worry about the pain. If you even experience any, its only a little bit :] Personally, I wasn't in any pain at all. Just remember to have lots of foreplay and get down there nice and wet, so it's not a shock to the system, so to speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): It can be uncomfortable as nothing has been up there before but we do desensitize to it with time. You may bleed, some people do, thats perfectly normal. x
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reader, becca07 +, writes (26 March 2008):
 you may feel a little dis comfort before and after.. but it'l pass. you may also experience some bleeding but its normal! x
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