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writes: Hello there, My husband never want to touch me , look at me etc. I tried marriage counseling,but he never did anything to make things better. Can I keep trying to fix this marriage alone,without his contribution? My question is...When do you say to yourself, that I tried it long enough? I guess, I'm really angry now, and its hard for me to stay around. I feel very hurt, and I can't stop fighting.So I wait, he will dump me soon. So I was wondering, maybe I should just go, so at least ,I can feel it was me who called it off.Does it give you more strength to go on with a divorce, if you make the first move?I feel ,it would be extra hard ,if I would be let down by him ,after all this crazy time...Well long marriage, went bad... My kids are over 18, but still needs help. What do you think, should I move on?I really tried my best to save it, but he remained passive, and let me do all the work.. Please give me some guidance here..
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (12 January 2009):
It sounds like time to move on. As far as more power no there isn't both have to agree on the terms. its pricy but worth it. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): It takes two to build a marriage, it takes two to save a marriage. Yes, it will make you feel stronger if you initiate the divorce. And it sounds as though you are ready to do that. After years of feeling unloved and unwanted, why would you wait for him to make the first move. Take control of your life! Otherwise you will be waiting for him to control you and your life! Divorce is tough, but it seems like it wouldn't be as tough as the way you are feeling!
And trust me...there is life after divorce!
Good Luck!
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