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*eldana
writes:ok, little back story...I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact my ex (yea I know, stupid and futile) We *the rebound relationship* Decided to split in a peaceful manner so that I could find myself and gather my bearings. Well, I have a high sex drive so I started up a FWB situtation with a mutual friend of both my family and my ex. (Nobody knows about this) Well, one night that my FWB had a party at his place I came over early and had some fun with him before people came over. well, for the party I wore a skimpy red dress. My ex was just all over me and now wants to hang again and even called me last night to say how beautiful I was. Well, I told my FWB about this because we had an honest connection. He tells me everything (regardless of whether I want to hear it or not) and I tell him everything going on in my life.Well, since I told him I was gonna hang out with my ex he got annoyed at me and logged off in a huff. Saying "Well, I hope you can schedule some hang out time with me as well."Well, he's got a LDR that lives a long ways off and that allows him to have fun while she is 52 hours awaySo, right now I am confused. He says we are not dating and yet somehow he calls me his lover and is getting mad that I am gonna hang with my ex/his friend? Does this mean he has feelings for me that he just can't commit?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 The FWB guy is realising he's losing you so he's grasping at straws. Move on from this guy and find happiness with someone who doesn't just want to screw you but actually wants to love and care for you. You deserve it.
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reader, meldana +, writes (6 September 2011):
meldana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, so I asked if my ex still loves me and he said yes. Well today FWB guy tells me that he had a dream about me last night. He's also been sending wrong messages such as baby and calling me princess.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (1 September 2011):
You are so on the right track. You go girl!
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reader, meldana +, writes (31 August 2011):
meldana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, The man is acting depressed and is saying that I am drifting away from him. Last time I saw him on cam was last night I felt upset cause he had another girl with him. So I was cried alittle but then I figured "hey, he's not mine to have so why am I getting upset?" Afterwards he noticed a change in atittude.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (27 August 2011):
The FWB knew what he was getting himself in for so you don't owe him any explanations. Carry on as per usual.
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reader, meldana +, writes (27 August 2011):
meldana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo what do you guys recommend? As of lately my ex can't seem to get enough of me but I'm happy where I am going in life. New Job, About to finish up school and volunteering. The sex thing to me is just that. Sex. (Kind of funny considering the fact that this is the woman saying it.) Anyways, if there is another chance with the relationship I'm not gonna rush things in again. I'm just gonna enjoy my time with him (the ex) as a friend. I'll keep you up to date what's going down
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (27 August 2011):
He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): It just means he doesn't have ENOUGH feelings for you to commit, that's all. If he thought you might even possibly be a girl he COULD commit to, he would be dating you and not just using you for sex. Wearing skimpy clothing and hanging all over your ex and going out with him later probably only confirms to him why he'll only keep you as a FWB.
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