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writes:Ive lost my love three weeks ago, it is a long story but i will cut it short, weve got married 2 months ago after 6 months relationship, I found in her the girl of my dreams and everything was just amazing till she moved to my apartment, we had a lot of clashes on different subjects, i was tough on her and havent realized that i am losing her, after all she left to her mother house, switched off her mobile for two weeks , filed a divorce and got it as i didnt want her to go thru more pain in courts, i have sent her emails, some sms, and called her only twice but she never answered, todya i called her but she rejected the call, ive sent her roses but she did refuse to take it from the delivery boy. I dont know what to do, i didnt try to see her bcoz i am afraid that this will make things even worse. Pls advise what should i do to regain her trust , does her behavior mean that she is no more interested? or it means that she is upset and that shoudl mean that she still loves me? pls advise
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reader, Billi +, writes (24 March 2010):
Billi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell , yes i did a lot of misatkes and some of those were abusive, i just dont know what to do to get in touch with her!! she refuses all contacts and keeps ignoring all my emails, sms.. i think she has closed the book and wants to move on what i should do as well no matter how painful is that, who knows maybe we will get a chance in future.. thanks for your replies
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): Does easy divorce laws have taken off the opportunity from couples to reconcile?In most of the cases, people use them in anger and ego battling mind sets?My feeling is that this is what has happened/My point is that in initial marriage, it is perfectly normal for couples to fight due to high emotional time and higher expectations. Almost 95 % of the time, couple would adjust and forget and forgive those spats, if they have no option at that phase of time.
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reader, Virginia E. Johnson  +, writes (24 March 2010):
I recommend that you read the question you posted. However, read it objectively. It may be helpful for you to jump 10-20 post pre/post dating yours ( don't count how many. Read each post/question starting from the 2nd line. Read very quickly, when you finally hit your post you will read it objectively (without emotions). Hopefully doing this will answer your question.
You mentioned regaining her trust which could mean your not telling the whole story, if this case examine your motives for seeking advice.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I think her behaviour means - I don't want anything to do with you!
Obviously she is not forgiving you for being tough on her, or your clashing was so bad she is still upset about it. Unfortunately for you tho being upset does not neccessarily mean you love someone. IMO - If you loved them/saw a future with them, you would be likely to be more forgiving or at least willing to hear the other person out.
I think she has probably closed the book on that chapter of her life and moved on. You should too.
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