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writes:I just split up with my boyfriend and i have been in touch with a lad from school who i always had a soft spot for but we were good friends. We have just been talking and he was someone who didnt no my ex so it was nice to talk. im not ready for a relationship and wont for a long time and he isnt but we have started talking about meeting up for no strings sex just between the 2 of us. This was a week ago he has been asking to come round 3 times and i chickened out everytime. He said all he thinks about is making love with me and things. He was out last night and i didnt speak to him but all my friends said he was looking at me and watching me while i was dancing and things. Does he like me just for the sex or could there be more in it in the future???
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): I think everyone else is wrong!
If you have had any physical relationship and he is still admiring you from afar he probably likes you.
If it was just physical he would have given up having been rejected 3 times, probably in a mood aswell.
BUT be warned if you sleep with him before being sure in your mind that you have a relationship with him (if thats what you want) you will always worry.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (5 November 2007):
 Hello.
Sorry sweet heart, it looks as if he does not want any relationship with any one, he is just out to get his sexual pleasure with any girl who is just around, sorry.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (4 November 2007):
 Ok, for starters, if you tell a guy you only want no strings sex, then yes, that's all he will think he is getting, and that's probably all he will want.
Having a F*** buddy can be pretty useful, you can stay single, still be allowed to have a flirt, but on the nights you feel a little lonely and want a cuddle (depending on the way you are with each other) or are feeling a little horny, he's a filler.
Plus he's someone who will boost your no doubt low self confidence, break ups usually lower your self esteem slightly for a while.
He'll make the break up easier, don't expect him to be much more than a rebound fling though.
With F*** buddy arrangements though, usualyl one or the other comes to want 'more', as in a relationship, and it sounds like you might want this, although you might be wondering if you have a future because you have just come out of a secure relationship, and the kind of agreement you have with this friend is an insecure kind of relationship.
My advice, just go with the flow. You can get what you need from each other, company, sex, a little ego boost, and if something in the future develops, go with it. If not, don't get too hung up on it. If you push for a relationship and he really doesn't want one, it will make it awkward between you, because he will know you want more than just sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): Yeah I think he just wants you for sex. Usually when guys like girls for a relationship they are alot more reluctant to talk about sex like that. When a guy truly likes you he will talk about everything from politics to nail polish way before he brings up sex. But when a guy is ONLY thinking sex with you, they will talk about that like its nobody's business. So yeah he just wants sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): it sound to me that there is nothing more than a physical attraction there and if you get to attached youll only end up hurt.
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