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female
age
36-40,
*hh88
writes: I met a foreign man living in the UK over two months ago and immediately entered into an intimate and sexual relationship and fell for him. He is 7 years my senior and at the moment he is working day till night all over the country so I never get to see him. Our last date was 2 weeks ago and that was after a month of not seeing each other. Since we have got together we have rowed and then made up but the rows are awful. The latest set of rows stems from em never seeing him because of his job. To compensate I send him loads of texts in the day but he says he is too "busy" to reply. I am lucky if I get one phone call a day. I have been unhappy and miserable since being together but I have feelings for him which is making it difficult to let go. When we started out he said he has feelings for me to. On one occasion out of spite I went on a date with someone else to which eh reacted by going absolutely mad even though nothing happened. It was a cry for attention for me I suppose. The latest situation is my mum was taken to hospital and I rang him on a withheld number because he has blocked me from every communication channel. He has done this before on numerous occasions only to unblock and say he wants to get back together. My mum was taken into hospital and when I told him he reacted very coldly and then rang me twice at 3.30 in the morning when of course I wouldn't be up. He is still blocked me and made no contact 3 days later. I know my friends and family want me to move on but I feel I need to understand his behaviour. I am not a needy person but because he is constantly working away I have turned into one. I'd be happy with a date a week but it's more like a date every month. He can't change jobs and his situation is difficult. A big part of me wants to end it for good but I miss him. We have great chemistry when together and we got close very quickly. Please give me some advice. He says he is fed up with my constant texts and constant expectation for a reply to them. He said he is too busy and tired to bother to text and call me when he is away. I did genuinely believed he cared for me but now I just feel I annoy him but I only annoy him with the calls texts as I never see him. I miss the intimacy with him as when we are together he is very affectionate and we hold hands in street etc. He is also very critical of me and has been from the start. My domestic skills, me behaving like a child, recently calling me fat even though I don't believe I am. I have blocked him from contacting me again as I feel this obviously is waste of time and emotional energy. Before anyone suggests this he definitely isn't married.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 February 2016):
 Am pretty sure I have already answered this question from you before.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (28 January 2016):
 Have you posted this question before? If not there is someone with a remarkably similar experience to yours. I think the upshot is you need to find someone who cares for you; looks to your needs; and frankly is around more often than not.
You might have to be on your own for a while but that doesn't mean you have to be lonely. Don't put up with crap just because you need to fill your life with something.
Try and help people and life will help you.
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