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anonymous
writes:I started seeing this man a few weeks ago, he is not really my type but after getting to know him, I've discovered I really like him. When he texts me, he seems very cool, calm and collected but in person, he's a bit awkward and acts nervous around me, which I think is very cute (although he seems to be very comfortable kissing me).He is very close to his family, which I love because I am close to mine too. The thing is that I can't tell if he is genuine or if he just wants something casual. We didn't have sex yet but we did spend the night together twice and fooled around once, the last time I saw him. I called him the next day to get together for dinner or something but he didn't call back, claiming that he left his phone at his friend's house, the next day. We haven't had "the talk" of what exactly we are but I think he knows that I like him and want more than just sex. Its early, we've only seen each other three times, had drinks the first time and then I went to his house and last time he came to mine late at night. He calls me cute all the time and he did say "babe" when I was..ahem..servicing him. I know I need to sit him down and ask him exactly what he's looking for but what does it sound like he wants?
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (5 December 2013):
 This sounds like it's going to be a casual sexual relationship. As SVC pointed out, if you don't want it to be casual, then stop the sexual contact and focus more on dating and getting to know each other. If he likes you as more than just a sexual conquest, then he'll want to spend time getting to know you. If you withold sex and he loses interest, then you'll know what his intentions were all along.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2013):
 "the last time he came to mine late at night"
RED FLAG... was that the time you fooled around?
if so... yeah he may only be interested in sex
stop having sexual contact with him.
no need for a talk after just 3 dates...
and they all say "babe" or "love" or "sweetie" when getting blow jobs.. then they don't have to remember our names...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 December 2013):
 You have only seen each other 3 times and you are already "servicing" him? You'd best slow down or you will only be the chick he sees when he needs "servicing". Getting to really know someone takes weeks and weeks with lots of non-sexual interaction. Long talks and long walks.
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