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writes:Advice? I feel bad. My fiance smashed his finger in the door of a friends house on our way out and I failed to get him ice simply because I didnt think if my friend had any ice. Instead I said lets hurry home I know theres an ice pack there which we did, but his finger has been hurting anyway and I get the feeling hes thinking that I just stood back and watched while he was hurting. I just wasnt thinking..After some self reflection im feeling...will I be the kind of wife want to be, nurturing etc or just kind of not knowing how to react? I also am not the best cook (though he knows how to cook) and he can sew, tidy up, etc but I seem to lack in all these areas...anyway what to do, im more concerned than he
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 January 2014):
 Um, stop beating yourself up?!
We react differently in different situations. It doesn't make you less "maternal" or less of a partner.
I for instance can't handle puking people. I don't care who is puking I can't stand it. If no one else is around I do my best to take care of them (my kids for instance) but if my husband is there... I let him do it. I really don't think that makes me a bad mother. I (can) handle everything else, JUST NOT puke.
Talk to him. He might not even be thinking about it any more at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014): Lol, tell him!!! Tell him what you were thinking and how it's been bugging you ever since. Chances are he'll not think it's a huge deal, but he'll appreciate the sort of NURTURING thoughts you're having right now :)
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