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writes:I'm a teen who's been dating this guy almost a month, I've liked him almost a year before we started dating and he said he liked me too but didn't think I liked him... he's my neighbor and at first we spent a lot of time together mostly playing games and walking around and talking to other friends and things and sometimes he would hold my hand and put his arm around me and one day he finally kissed me and he told me that he had been thinking about kissing me but was afraid I didn't want him to and I told him I did. Well since then some days he kisses me sometimes but not much, I don't know why... and lately some days he doesnt call or come over and I know he's there because I see him outside and stuff.I'm afraid he's avoiding me or something because like yesterday I called him and was told he was gone, I don't know, maybe he was but then later that day I saw him on the porch which he usually does, comes out and sits when he's looking for me and then he will call or wave at me but he didn't and then later my mom was outside and saw him open the door and glance over and went back inside and shut the door and it just seems like he is trying to avoid me but then I think if he didn't want me to know he was home he would sit on his front porch and not his back porch so I wouldn't see him.Please help, I really like this guy but I'm so confused and dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u so much 4 answering my question!
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 Nobody here will know if he is avoiding you or not. In fact, it is only possible for him to know, or anyone who he shares that information with.
What I can tell you is that you should keep the following in mind:
1) After liking you for a year, it is unlikely his feelings have changed after only one month.
2) Everyone needs personal time and space. Just because he is home does not mean he wants to be with you - or anyone else. Sometimes we just want to be on our own. That is not a reflection of his feelings fro you. It's perfectly normal and healthy not to want to spend all of your available time with people.
3) Do not always be available, yourself. Give him space and take some for yourself. Always being available gives the appearance of neediness. Keep busy, hang out with other friends, and if you call him and he doesn't call you back, wait for him to get in touch.
I have always felt that if someone expected me to be with them all the time, or to be in constant communication, it would cramp my style and I lose interest.
Good luck!
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