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writes: Dear Cupid, I am writing because my Husband has a child from a previous relationship. He didn't know his daughter existed until about 2003. She is four years old. My problem lies in the fact that her mother will not let him see her unless she is around. She says, "I'm ready for that yet.". How is supposed to get to know his daughter better if she is always there. He has 2 other children with his high school sweetheart. he is very quick to say he's going ot take her (the high school sweetheart) court for visitation rights. The other mother, he never says anything about taking her to court. He just lets her push him around and he can only see his daughter when she says so. He pays his child support every week like clock work. When I mention him taking her to court he says, "You're right, I should.", but never does anything. I feel like there is something more going on than what he's telling me. He has text messaged her and erased it. He also erased her reply. He's very good to me though I barely have to left a finger around the house. He doesn't go to clubs or anything like that. The most he'll do is go to a friend's house for a couple of hours. He also calls me from where he is several times. Let me get to the questions. Do you think I should feel like she has more in mind than just him spending time with his daughter? Also, do you think he still has feelings for her?Confused in NC
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reader, woo-hoo--  +, writes (2 July 2008):
From a mothers point of view, I would feel uncomfortable sending my little girl off with someone that she has been exposed to very much. I would want to make sure she felt comfortable with her father first. In my opinion , you need to quit being so insecure and try to get to know his daughter as well. I would make sure that I was at every visit but I would not push the court issue right now, remember its not whats best for you as an adult but that four year old child.
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