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writes: i met this great guy we've been talking for a few weeks and we really have many things in comman. I really like him and see him as more than a friend but he says that he can't having anything to do with me because he is afraid i'll get hurt he says that since he is involved in a gang that he has many problems and that i could get hurt and he doesn't want that. i don't know though if he's really worried i'll get hurt or if he doesn't want anything to do with me (he really is involved in a gang) Reply to this Question
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (15 May 2007):
 I have found that the reasons behind why a guy tells you that he doesn't want a relationship with you because he's afraid that you'll get hurt don't really matter. Just believe him. Because you will.
If someone starts out with the idea that being with them is a Bad Thing and will likely end in you getting hurt, they have already opened up that possibility to becoming a reality. So whether you would really be in danger from his gang life, or whether you would be in danger from being hurt by his lack of interest...you really are in danger of getting hurt.
Take him at his word and avoid him and any possible relationship.
Best of luck.
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