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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Me and my boyfriend broke up nearly six months ago now, but have remained friends since. His reasons for the breakup were that he wanted to concentrate on himself(his family, studies etc).For many of these months i was constantly upset around him and depressed, but then i managed to teach myself to be normal around him. Things got better, but we started having sex again. There were times when i did things where he would have never spoken to me again, but he said for some reason something made him contact me.Then one time i got really drunk in front of him and he didnt talk to me for bout 2 weeks, whereby during this period we had no sexual contact. Eventually i contacted him and we started talking again.Then recently the sex started again, and then he asked me my views on us still having sex, so i told him how i felt, and alot of questions were answered.He said before that he told me that he told me there was never any possiblilty of us being together again, but he only said it so i would accept the situation.I explained that you can never say never, and he then said that he honestly doesn't know if theres a posibility. But when i started to blame myself for the breakup, he said it was more his fault because i was willing to make compromises but he wasn't. He said he wasn't ready for an adult relationship wheras i was, and when the going got tough he couldn't handle it.He also mentioned that there was obviously still going to be an attraction.I don't understand why he still wants to be friends...we speak on a regular basis and he speaks to me and sees me more than most of his friends. I don't even think he has told his family yet..as i still come round.Why is he behaving like this? Does he still care? Does he really only want to be friends or does he just want time to do his own thing?
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reader, Romeo Wife +, writes (26 January 2009):
 He is probably just very confused and going through a tough stage in his life, it happens to most people. He wants to stay friends because he probably still wants to be more than just friends but he most have a lot going on in his mind that you should probably try to find out about or if not just give him time and space! He doesn't want to feel lonely and because he trusts you he feels more comfortable spending time with you than with any of his frends. About having sex that is a normal issue that happens to most of couples who break up and remain friends, its difficult to break up with someone and still stay friends with them without wanting more than just friendship. You should talk to him and tell him that you can't carry on not knowing where you stand, he either has to fully trust you and have a propper relationship with you or....you know what!
Hope this helps!
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