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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've liked him for almost two years. I think he found out that I liked him (`cause everyone else knew). He keeps on staring at me and when we talk he always puts his arm around my shoulders. There was this one time where he had his hand around my shoulders and he asked me if we were friends and I said no. He then asked me if we were best friends. I said no and told him to get his hands off me (in a joking way) and he let go, like he was pissed. He once told me, jokingly, that he loved me.There are days when I'm really sure that he likes me but other times, I feel like he ignores me. He has a gf (who is in love with a different guy, and he KNOWS it) and she isn't really nice to me. She keeps on humiliating me in front of him and glares at me when she thinks I'm not looking.He isn't the type of guy who cheats and he's really, really sweet. But I'm mot so sure what to think any more cause today, I asked my friend to do me a favor and asked him why he keeps on staring and if he likes me. He said no and that he only likes me as a friend. She thinks he's lying (since he wouldn't meet her eyes and he kept on glancing at me) while I think that he's saying the truth. All of my friends think that he was lying and that he does like me (they caught him staring at me a lot).I'm not really sure who to believe in anymore. I'm a really shy person and I have this ego thing/problem. But his friends keep on making teasing me about him. When I was asking my friends for money, one of his friend overheard it and told me that he'd give me money if he kissed him (the guy I liked). There was also this other friend of his that implied that we were really close (we're not. We don't talk all the time. Were more like good acquaintances.) and by close, he meant in a bf-gf kind of way.He blushed, looked very embarrassed and looked like he was going to punch said friend. And since I'm an English speaking type of person (we have our own native language), he makes an effort to talk to me in English when he'd rather speak in our native dialect. Its not because he can't speak English, he just prefers not to.But what should I do now? Does he REALLY only like me as a friend? I can't get over him. I really, really like him a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): I have the same problem! Guys are so frustrating aren't they! But worth it too. The guy I like knew about my love for him, well I did ask him out 4 times, and all four times he said no. We're so close, we help each other when we need help and I know that he cares about me. But then he tries it on with me, like physical stuff and i get all confused 'cause if it does happen then he doesn't talk to me the next day. My opinion is that he's just confused.
So from my own experiences...
So my advice is this: Flirt with him, get to know him, hang around with him out of school and maybe even alone if you can! Then If he doesn't ask you out, then you should ask him out. You seem like an independent woman. Have a smile on your face and make sure you feel comfortable in what your wearing.
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