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writes:my ex and i broke up 2 months ago after being together for 2 years. we were very much in love but he has some issues with college and setting goals and i have anger issues. so we would argue a lot but it didnt really get bad until like 3 months before we broke up. i said i was done and he said fine. and that was it. he then admitted that he supposedly didnt love me anymore. and im guessing its because i pushed him away because i was so bossy most of the time. I have been really upset and i couldnt understand why he was going to end it like that so i kept texting him and calling him because obviously i am naive and this was my first relationship. i am almost 21. but i finally told him i was going to leave him alone after i realized that doing that is going to push him farther away. but then after a couple of days we talked at his house and we exchanged things and letters. and he said he was still going to talk to me even though i said not to unless he missed because i didnt want to get hurt. he told me he liked another girl at his work who has a bf. shes been giving him advice on our relationship which i dont particularly like but what can i do. and he told me that he thinks about me alot and said that when he walks to his store he looks inside the one i work in to see if im there. we both work across from eachother in a theme park. so we talked online and i left him alone. and i wrote him back online about a message he sent me that he was really nice in. so i texted him about if he got my message and he said he didnt and i said i was glad his birthday was in a couple of days and goodnight and he never responded. then i wrote him the next day telling him that i would like him to hold on to the things i gave back to him, until i saw him again. but no response.and then his 21st birthday was a couple days ago and i hadnt called him all day bc i was upset that he ignored my messages. then at 9:30 pm he wrote me saying he was sorry for not writing and was telling me that my two favorite bands were coming in town and that he hopes everything is good and that i have a good night. i guess he felt bad and cracked. so i called him 2 hours later and left him a voicemail saying happy birthday. then he called me back suprisingly and we were talking and he was telling me about his birthday. and that he really appreciated me calling him but he was mad that i waited this late to call him but i told him u didnt reply to me until 9:30 tonight. and then he said thank you again for calling me and he said he will talk to me soon and to have a good night. and we talked for about 10 minutes. i love him so much but i dont want to get back with him right now, but i want to in the future. i think he is such a great guy but just needs to get college and his future figured out. he has been really nice to me lately. and i dont understand why he was mad that i didnt call till late, why when he told me to leave him alone and i did, that he still wants to talk to me. i just dont get it. does he miss me? or does he like this other girl? who also got my email and harassed me online like a 12 yr old. i dont want him to forget about me. and i dunno. im just so confused. Because one minute he says he could see us together again and then the next he doesn’t.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Stay friends with him and see where your paths go. You are right, you both need time to grow up and figure out what you want from life. You are still pretty young. If you stay friends then maybe you can take thistime to get to know each other a little more and maybe form a better bond. And this way you wont lose him from your life completely. As far as the girl who harassed you online I would just ignore her, she sounds immature and will most likely be gone soon. I definatley think he misses you but like many other young guys is confused and commitment is scary. So as I said, stay friends! Good luck.....Jezebel
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (17 March 2009):
 i think he doesnt know wat he wants...i think he wants u and that girl and his work at the same time..his listening to his head and heart at the same time..i think he really does love u just give him time..maybe its going to fast for him so hiss trying to slow things down..
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