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writes:I've been with this man for two and a half years. He is 18 years older than me. We get on well and the relationship is going from strength to strength. He always says he loves me and I love him too. I have just got my divorce settled. I have got my own flat but have to sell it to pay my solicitor bill. He has been very helpful and supportive throughout my divorce. But when it comes to money he never offer to help me out. He is a weathly man. He makes me feel that he loves money more than me. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): You present as aged 41-50 (overage) and currently living in the UK. You have a flat, you wanted a divorce, I have no idea why you think your partner should pay for it. It's your problem. and you have enough resources to sort your situation out. You say he's 20years older than you, well he worked hard for his money. He didn't work hard all his life to give away his money to some women he's known for just 2years. If you have problems, I'm sure he'll help you out, but at the moment you want to spend his money, while you save yours. This is not fair.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 July 2008):
Well he is only your boyfriend, he's not in anyway obliged to support you. This is 2008, girls can't just expect their man to cough up for them.
You could ask him for a loan or sell him a quarter of your flat or something so you don't have to sell up.
He may have the money but if you are only in the beginnings of a relationship he's not just going to give it to you.
Sell your flat before the housing market crashes and ask him for advice about how to invest the money. You have to be your own woman and since you are now a divorcee, you need to be as financially independent as possible.
Good Luck!! xx
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