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writes:HELP!!!!I get alot of attention from boys at school and most of them are in my form but usually I ignore it and just think of them as my close friends I have a really good looking boyfriend in another form and some of his friends have told me i'm 'hot' he sometimes get a little jelous which is kind of cute but he also has alot of intrest from girls aswell which really annoys me because of an incident that happened a while ago which resulted in this girl sitting on his lap when he went on a trip, some of my friends who were there took pictures of it and sent it too me and later he phoned me and told me what happened and said she just plonked on his lap he said he told her to get off and that he had a gf but she ignored him scince then I really don't know if I can trust him enough not to get bored of me and go off with someone else, its killing me to think that he would do that although he says he wouldnt and he always tells me how much he loves me I still can't help but act alittle tense around him so I don't get too attatched I really don't want things to be this way because I really love him!what should I do I can't act like this around him all the time I want to let myself go but I can't and if he does leave me I will be heart broken what should I do??????? xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (20 August 2012):
Remember that the attention that he gets from other girls isn’t what’s important. What matters is how he chooses to deal with it, and just like you shrug off attention from other boys, he’s doing exactly the same thing with these other girls that are interested in him. IF he were this jealous of you because you received unwanted attention, you would very quickly start to resent him and be annoyed with him for not trusting you. Unfortunately, if you keep allowing yourself to be plagued with doubts and to overreact to any attention he is given, it will cause problems in your relationship. You need to keep all your focus on his reaction: that reaction has been a clear rejection of this attention because, as he tells you, he loves you. Maybe it’s natural to feel a bit jealous, but keep practicing the art of reminding yourself that there’s no need and it’ll become easier with time, and you won’t make him worry that you don’t trust him.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Let me gaze into the crystal ball called experience. I see your future. He will leave you. You will be heartbroken. You will get over it. I can't tell how long that will take. Shorter is better. You will find someone else. Probably several someones.
It's life, it's wonderful, enjoy it. Don't think you have to be committed to each other so young. Don't be in a hurry to do everything you can think of. Make sure you can trust him (them) before you share intimacies.
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reader, RaahRaahTheNoisyLion +, writes (20 August 2012):
You get attention from boys,he gets it from girls. Tell him no matter who declares their love for you, you will tell them no because you love him, ask him if he feels the same.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 That tense feeling is a little red flag going off in your subconcious defensive mantle. listen to it, Something inside knows it's not right so pay attention and act accordingly. Your inner self is telling you to avoid pain by stering clear of involvement. Keep looking around for the inner signal that says,"Ahhh, relax, he's cool!" Until that happens being tense is a good thing.
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