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writes:Hi, I’m sorry that this is going to be a really long story, but I wasn’t sure what was important or not (‘’,).Well there's this guy at uni (A) which I met a few months ago, but recently I'd say we have become really close friends. Then one day we were chilling with a couple of friends and he just stayed by my side, kept hugging me, tickling me, sat wherever I sat. As he left, he kept looking at me. It was all just a little awkward initially because I didn't know what was happening. My friend joked that he might like me, but I ignored it. I continued to talk to him everyday online. I would see him around now and again, but not a lot. Then about a week later, I went to a friend's place and he turned up. He came straight into the kitchen and stood next to me, tickled me, etc. At one point I got up and went over to the window, he followed me there and kept trying to pick me up. I went and sat at the table, he smiled and looked at me as he left. That's when all of my friends said they thought he liked me and I did start to believe it.Continuously for the next few months we saw each other a lot, would talk everyday, got closer and I started to fall for him. The feelings I had became stronger, but suddenly, one day, he told me that he was going out with someone and was telling me about problems he was having with her, etc. I wasn't too sure what to say, so I tried to just think of him as only a friend and nothing more and that nothing would happen. A while later he then told me about this other girl that he liked all year and all these girls he had gone out with in his time at uni. To be honest, that really shocked me because it kind of gave me the impression that he was a 'player', so I started to believe he was a flirt. He eventually split up with his girlfriend.However, this didn't seem to help me get over him because he would continue to see me every day, come over and spend time with me, etc. The "touchy feely" aspect never really stopped (he would tell me he liked my hugs) and it confused me. We spent a lot of time alone together and during one of the holidays he kept telling me he missed me, and then he asked me to stay over when we got back to uni. I was a little surprised and didn’t know what to say. Once we got back to uni, I did go see him and just went back to my flat, but I was upset about something that happened at home, so he told me to come back. I went there, he was comforting me and we just fell asleep. I woke up at some point really early in the morning and felt bad. I know I didn’t do anything, but I told myself I wouldn’t do that. I tried to leave without him realising, but he grabbed me and pulled me back into bed. I tried again later but the same thing happened, although, this time he put his arm around me and cuddled me. Eventually we both got up and I left. After this, there were times when he came over to mine, would lie on my bed and tell me to lay with him. Then he would fall asleep on me. He would always lean on me, flirt, touch my waist. I just didn’t know what to do or feel. I would see him flirt with other girls, but I was convinced it was different with me, and so were my friends. I still told myself that I needed to get over him and that he was messing with me. Later, I found out that his friend (B) started to like me and I started talking to him just as a friend. We would only talk whenever we saw each other. ‘A’ came across quite jealous and would make comments like ‘go to ‘B’’ etc. Eventually ‘B’ told me that ‘A’ told him he didn’t like me like that, but he had a feeling I liked him back. ‘A’ told ‘B’ that he was going to talk to me about it. One day I got drunk and revealed to ‘A’ that I liked him and as a result of that, he told me the next day that he didn’t like me like that and that he didn’t want to ruin the friendship we have. I’m so confused. Somewhere deep down, I kind of feel like he’s lying and that he does like me. But sometimes I think maybe he doesn’t even know what he wants. Sorry again about it being so long, but I just want to know what you think and if you think he likes or liked me.Thanks :)
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reader, Who  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 The standard advice to “Does he like me or not?” questions is Get Used to It. All the not-knowing-if-the-other-person-likes-you, the paying-attention-to-you-one-day-ignoring-you-the-next, dating-other-people-but-hanging-around-you business? It is all part of romance.
“I think maybe he doesn’t even know what he wants.”
I think you are correct. If you want you can try to help him figure out what he wants, but you have to figure out what you want first. Be prepared for him to decide liking you the way you may want is not what he wants. A few broken hearts is also part of romance.
The most important thing to remember is this guy B came along and started liking you. Maybe A or perhaps B is going to be your guy for happily ever after. If not there is going to be guys C, D, E, F, G…etc until you do find your happily ever after guy.
Good luck and hope this helps.
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