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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok i enjoy going out clubbing but guys always flirt and try to pick me up and i have a bf of almost 2 years. i was very dunk 1 night and met a really nice guy who i explained that i had a bf but he just kept me company while my friends were dancing. I ended up getting his number and he got mine but i had no intention of cheating on my bf or anything. So we were messaging and he said he wanted to meet up to get to know me when i wasnt drunk coz he had a fun night and never had as quick a connection with someone then he has with me. 2 weeks later i met up with him for lunch and we just chatted and he isnt anything like i remember and i wouldnt normally be friends with someone like him but today he sent me a msg wishin me luck for my exam....im a bit worried hes interested even tho he knows im in love with my bf and wants to meet up with me sumtime again? i dont understand why he wants to and how do i tell him i dont want to without being mean coz he is just a good guy.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 June 2008):
He might just want to be friends, or he might be hoping he can win you away from your man.
I would go for lunch with him but don't let him get too close and watch your body language. Talk about your boyfriend and how lucky you are to have found a man who is so easy going and doesn't mind you having male MATES. Ask him about his love life, offer him girl advice, etc etc.
You can get the message across subtly that way and if this guy wants more than your friendship then I'm sure he will disappear once he knows it's not on the cards.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 It sounds like he's interested. You can be nice about it. It's reality. You have a boyfriend, you love him, you're not going to persue anything further with him.
I think he does have concerning interests. If you ask nicely, and he still persues, you might have to be a mit more not so nice.
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