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writes:There's a shy guy at work who I thought hated me at first- he seemed to only yell at me and have no interest in me whatsoever. Now I catch him looking at me sometimes. It's confusing because he seems nervous around me and stumbles when he speaks- but he is fine around everyone else- it's only me! Other times he seems to go out of his way to avoid me or he'll speak to other people, but not me. He seemed really excited when he thought that a birthday card for him was given by me. (It wasn't- my boss bought it.) But then he seemed upset that I wasn't the one to buy it for him, lol. I'm really confused and don't know what's going on here. Does he like me, but is afraid to show it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015): You'll do best to keep your mind focused on your job when you're at work; and not who likes you and such. His behavior is inappropriate.
People get into a lot of trouble; and cause discord by trying to turn their workplace into a dating pool. If things don't work-out after a failed attempt at romance; then there's either shame or awkwardness. People can't face each other. That detracts from getting the job done. You're paid to think about your job.
My advice is to deal with him only where your job requires you to. If he's as odd as you've describe him; I can't figure out why it matters? Dating on the job brings drama to the workplace. It invites liability, causes distraction, and any company that overlooks unprofessional behavior among their staff isn't worth working for, or doing business with.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 August 2015):
 I wouldn't worry. He is a co-worker and an awkward one at best.
If I were you I would just look at him as an oddball co-worker and move on with work.
If he really DID like you he has a pretty messed up way of showing it... Don't you think?
And... let's also consider that THIS is your work place, not a bar where you can pick up a dude. Keeping your dating life and work life separate is usually a good thing.
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