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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 13 months and we are best friends and we never had a fight. We have so much in common we snowboard, surf and hang out all the time....he just said to me he needs some space, and I dont know how to take it.. so I am giving it to him...I said or we still boyfriend and girlfriend and he said he doesnt want to label it and he just wants some space?what should I do??we are both in our thirties and I am just wondering if he has cold feet since our relationship is serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): I agree with Fade and Teacake! What else can you do but let him have his time? You can't force him to committ. And like Teacake said...be cool about it...don't act needy. That will probably scare him away forever! On the other hand, if you say yes, you're right, he may realize there's a chance he might lose you. It could go the other way and you could lose him, but I believe everything happens for a reason. We just don't know the reason!!!
If it's meant to be, he will come back!
Hope it works out for ya!
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reader, Teacake +, writes (4 December 2008):
 moods and minds change constantly. It is the holiday season and he might need some time alone. Couples I think make the mistake of thinking they have to be together all the time or something is wrong.
Don't corner him for any details. Just tell him to at least give a call now and then and let you know how he is doing. Don't pressure him about anything regarding the relationship. The more space a man has the better he usually feels, things can get smothering for women too. Just let him have his time and try not to worry, even though I know how impossible that is. Don't act desperate. Try to act like you need space too! Agree with him. I read in an advise column the best thing to do always is agree! That if you shock them that way, sometimes they are taken aback and start to question what ever the problem they thought they had, was.
You're right honey. We do need a break, I was thinking the same thing too. It would be best for both of us.... etc.
good luck!
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