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anonymous
writes:I have been seeing a man for 9 months. Five weeks ago, I broke up with him because he didn't seem interested in me anymore and he was not being supportive during a health concern. We didn't talk for two weeks. I emailed him about returning a piece of his property in my home and we made up. Since then he has been very attentive, calling a couple of times a day, showing interest in my life again and even helping me deal with a tricky car repair. He's made comments about us being "glued" together. He has made me feel so wonderful since we got back together.Tonight, a friend who is signed up on an Internet dating site was showing me her matches and we began looking at profiles. The third profile we read was my boyfriends. We met on this site nine months earlier and he used the same profile. He didn't have a picture up, but it is him. It showed that he had been last active today.I don't know what to think about this. Why is he trying so hard to please me now that I'm back, but he's still looking for new women?I can understand that he might put a profile up after we broke up, and it appears it went up one and one-half weeks after we broke up, but why is he continuing to keep it active now that we are back together and he is seemingly attempting to make some positive changes in his interaction with me? We were exclusive before and had been for six months.Is he feeling insecure about me or is he playing me until he finds someone else?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (3 November 2007):
Hmmm its hard to be sure of what is going on with him.
Did you ever say something to him about how his behaviour has improved and you are happy with it...and asked him why he amde this change? What were his reasons?
He could be messing you around, as he doesnt have the perfect track record and you dont seem to really know hwy he had a suden change in his behaviour. Did he realise what he did wrong and realised he needed to make a change?
But then again him logging onto his account on a dating web site doesnt mean that he was looking for someone. Perhaps he got notified by email of someone messaging him on there? And he went to check it out of curiousity?
Does his profile say he is single?
I think you need to question him about his profile. Say a friend of yours spoted his profile and noticed that it said he was single and that he had been using it since you guys got back together. See what reason he comes up with. But dont accuse him of anything bad, and dont get aggressive as many poeple do. Be assertive.
Pay attention to his body language and all that to see if he seems like hes lieing.
I think thats your best way to find out if he is playing you or not. Last bit of advice...trust your gut!!! It is always right!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Perhaps he's simply curious as to what messages he would have gotten had he not gotten back together with you?The answer may be simple. Have you friend message him and see if or how he replies. I say MAY, though, because it may be a path you don't want to start down. If it turns out he's being faithful, how would it make you feel knowing you tried to trick him?It may just be best to see if he stays with you. Chances are you'll know fairly soon either way.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (3 November 2007):
 I think the latter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Yeah, most likely he is playing you until he finds someone else. So don't be surprised if and when this doesn't work out. And don't give too much thought to his comments about how you two are "glued" together. He was just making an observation. But that says nothing about how he feels about you. Its not like he said he loves you. But it sounds like you are crazy about him. But you should be a little more proud. I mean if he left something over at your house so what?? It sounds like you used that as an excuse to call him. But I think he is just lonely. So don't sweat him anymore. You should be with someone who wants to be with you for a better reason than just lonliness.
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