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writes:I had an 11 year relationship with my boyfriend, we share a son 4 years old. I have decided to go back to school for medical assistant and he was not very supportive of that. Meaning he wanted a wife barefoot and pregnant. Anyhow, I went to school with an exception of having his not by blood but marriage cousin live with us and babysit my son in the duration of the summer time. We had argument after argument about getting our home back now that our son is in school, he rufused, even the fact she lived with us for a year, others were stating he acts like he is sleeping with her, and the truth behold he was. All this stress I went through with him about having my privacy, my home and my family was irrelevant to him and I wanted to know why. Now 6 months later he wants to come back into my life and reconcile. I am not sure if that is a good idea, because beyond what he did in our home, he has hurt me prior in the years in many ways. I am a good woman I did not deserve that. I have not found anyone yet because I wanted to give myself the attention for a change. Should I or shouldn't I give him another chance?
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reader, Rossoraven +, writes (9 March 2009):
Rossoraven is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you ananymous and Jezebel527, Especially Jezebel527, because today after 6 months I came face to face with him and he is begging to come back into my life, I have notice a change, and a difference, but to early to predict. But in a sense I am giving him another chance but he would severly have to earn that from me. I am totally confuse right now because I am not getting his agenda behind all this, and he had let me know that he litterally hit rock bottom behind all of this and he is very sorry and wants his family back. I do not want to feel that I am making a mistake by taking him back into my life and to regret it either. So we shall see, and thank you again I appreciate that advice and I will take that into consideration, for me and my son.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): NO! Do not give him another chance! He is most inconsiderate of your feelings and goals. He does not deserve you, and you for sure don't need the aggravation of putting up with his nonsense!!
Congratulations on going back to school to qualify as medical assistant - focus on that, and your son......
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): First of all I applaud you for going back to school! Lots of us say we will and it never happens after the kids come around. It sounds to me like you are moving forward with your life and maybe coming to a place where you are happy. Now ask yourself this, did he change? Is there a difference there? If not then it will just be more of what you had while together. Trust me as I have been through this before. I know that it sucks to be alone and no one likes it but as you said you are concentrating on you for a change and I just think that is awesome. You said yourself you are a good woman and didnt deserve what he did to you. Who's to say he wont do it again. You have to protect yourself and your son and the life you have built. I would think long and hard before letting him come back and potentially mess it up for you.
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