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writes:Hey!So basically i am 16 years old and i am your average 16 year year old i drink, i go into town (clubbing) i know quite a lot of people, im not popular or anything i just know people in my town becasue its quite small! Anyway last summer i was out in town with my freinds and i met this guy and we were all together a big group of us getting on really well, well i was rather drunk but remember the night completley. The he added me on faceboke spoke to him once then never really thought anything of it The about a month later i was in Orlando and he popped up on facebook like no way are you in Orlando so am I!?! it was really weird anyway after that we got speaking again then it disapeared again so by now i have known him for ages and i have seen him out were i live in town as he doesnt live near me he lives like an hour away! then i saw him out and he was like finally i have seen you again, can i have your number? and i was like yeahh sure then we were texting and then i saw him in town starting speaking again loads then again we stop! like always he just stopped then i saw him out again and it was starnge we were talking and gettting on really well then out of the blue he goes 'dont want to sound an idiot are you a virgin' and yeah i am and before that question he was like kissing me on the neck and everything but since that i havent spoken to him once, he is basically ignoring me all together!!!So my question is he basically wanted me for sex and has now realised i wont be as easy as he thought? well why did he waste his time trying?i just dont get him i really likes him
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 If you really think about it he didn't really waste any time trying; he's faded in and out of talking/getting to know you. He's not consistent in pursuing you.
You've got it right, if he tried to take your V-card and you didn't give it up then he was after only one thing. The hour distance has got something to do with it as well, why try to steal your virginity when you're not going to give it and you live out of town? Not very convenient for him.
DON'T waste your time on this loser. Also, kudos for you to hanging onto your virginity. Trust me, the one who deserves it, won't ask for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): He is immature and wants to chase, and you are easily caught, so he quickly loses interest. He forgets, time passes, you show up, he pursues, you give in, he loses interest. This will happen over and over again until he matures emotionally. So, short answer is move on. When you do, watch out for him because he'll be pursuing you like no tomorrow. When you stop and get caught again, he'll lose interest. Hopefully, in that interim time you will not succumb. If you do, guaranteed he will bed you and move on. Why? because that's what he's now doing except he's not getting the sex. If you expect any differently with it, you probably have unrealistic expectations. So, forget him and move on. Instead focus on why this type of attention seems to be a need for you, and think you'll find it more about your self esteem than any real "like" for this person.Take it from a 40 year old -- do not mistake charm and good looks for maturity.
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