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writes:Does anyone really find love or a relationship online? Is it possible? I hear stories and know people. But are they the rule or the exception? Is it possible to find love long distance through online. I just like to hear if anyone who has found love LDR or LDR online? Or have heard anyone who has? Thanks again and best wishes :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): yeah its possible to share feelings me and my friend genuinely love each other and we care so much for one another i see him every few months and when im older because im going to a university near him we'll see each other a lot more but it took me four years to be as close as i am now
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAny more stories of success? I would greatly appreciate them
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (8 March 2010):
 If you (or we) have to convince him that it could work...he just might not be ready for it to work!
I am living proof that it can work and so are my family members and friends!
He may just not be ready for commitment yet...just take it slow, and enjoy each other online for now...if it's right, it'll happen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank anyone for their responses. Unfortunately, it still wasnt enough to convince him it could work.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (7 March 2010):
SirenaBlusera: No problem at all I'm happy to answer!
I met my boyfriend on connectingsingles.com; he contacted me the day I first posted my profile. He lives in Sweden but since we met he visits for long periods. We spoke online and on telephone and skype for 6 months before we met. I have visited him a couple of times too for a few weeks at a time. We have met each other's families and he is very close to my children and has become like a father to them. Its very hard being so far away from each other when we are apart, but we communicate several times a day. He has now proposed and asked me to move to Sweden; he has just bought a house for us (him, me, my kids and the baby he wants us to have)!!! I still keep wondering if I'm going to wake up and find this was all just a dream!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): Yes you can meet all sorts online. There are a lot of guys just after sex aome perverts who would love to talk dirty on msn/cam but never meet up. There are also some wierdos who are only online because they have no confidence. In real life you get those guys too though. My GP told me that if used conservatively and sensibly, online forums and sites can be a great way to connect. I met an FWB online - he is a friend and is really nice and we were both honest that we don't want serious relationships right now (I just came out of a damaging relationship myself) but actually I didn't sleep with him, just snogged him because I decided I wasn't ready for sex yet. I also met two fantastic female friends online and made a couple of professional contacts so it can work well. One of my female friends came over from Ireland to see me and we are going to go on holiday together. Do be a bit careful of people looking for somsone to marry because they need paperwork/passports though .. there are a few of those. Also the poster who mentioned about his cousin getting a woman he would never get here because of how he is, also has a point!! Use it sensibly and always meet up with the person after a few chats online - I think I read that after a couple of weeks or so you should be looking to meet for a drink, in a public place and always give a friend the details. Good luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): I've been talking to a guy for 8 months now, and we have a very strong emotional connection. He lives in canada, I live in australia. We are hoping to meet this year, money is the only thing stopping us at the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo its okay, I will like as many responses as I can get. Thank you and best of luck!
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reader, CaribbeanSomebody +, writes (7 March 2010):
My not so bright socially speaking cousin met an attractive german woman online and got married with her. They are still together and living in California more than eight years later.
I don't know the details of the relationship because my mother was the one who told me about it. But I did meet the woman. I don't know how my cousin communicated with her because we are hispanics and he didn't speak a lot of english and he didn't know german. Perhaps she knew some spanish, and I think she was fluent in english.
I know she came to our US territory and stayed with my cousin (he lived with his parents at the time) for like 3 months until her legal papers expired. Then she went back to Germany and came back to get married. They stayed here for a few years and then moved to California. They have no kids. My cousin was in his late 20's and I think she was a little older than him.
He would've never gotten the oportunity to get a woman like that here because of his personality and because he was not particularly attractive.
Also, a good friend of mine told me she knew some older woman who had met a real millionaire online and got married with him. I'm sure my friend wouldn't lie about that.
I personally think online dating is boring because my experience is that you always end up meeting only sexual perverts or shy/ugly/desperate men. Also I think there's a tendency for people to force a romantic relationship once they have met online. I show them my pic and suddenly they are all in love with me??
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (7 March 2010):
I know you've already gotten quite a few responses...but I just had to answer this one too! I am madly in love with a man I met online, and he loves me! We plan to be together in the near future. He is the most loving caring, honest guy I have ever met!
He isn't the first man I have met online...and there have been some jerks! But patience and faith paid off for me.
And for other's I have known of....well, my daughter met her husband online seven years ago. My ex met his current wife online...my good friend met her boyfriend online.
To me it seems that there is no difference in meeting someone online, or in a bar, or even at church for that matter.
Life is a matter of taking risks. I for one am willing to take risks to find true happiness!
Just trust your gut, and watch for red flags!
Have fun and I hope you find Mr. Right!
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Yes it's possible. I met my boyfriend of over a year online, and it wasn't even a dating site! We're 'only' 2 and a half hours away from each other, so we're fairly lucky i guess. I finish high school in july, once i finish i'll be moving in with him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Strontiumdog, I'm sorry to hear that those women did that to you. Out of curiosity, what do you think of webcaming and talking on the phone? Do you think that the feelings are shared? Do you think they can be shared that way? Is it possible? Thank you for you perspective on this :) you bring up interesting points
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): i didnt find a relationship online but i found one of my closest friends hes everything i need hes like abig brother to me cares about me and everything and i can honestly say i love him to pieces i have met up with him btw
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Thank you Angzw!!!! I'm much heartened by this advice too. You've helped a lot of people. Good luck!!!!
On what site did you meet him, if I may ask? Where is he from? No pressure to answer if this question makes you uncomfortable, I understand. Just curious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Last year I met this guy online and then we started talking on the phone and we hit it off. But it didn't work out hun, we were together for almost a year and I broke it off with him. And after that experience, I don't think it's worth it, finding someone online. Sometimes people tell me that he wasn't really a boyfriend cause there was no physical part of the relationship, and maybe they are right. Unless the 2 people meet, and then from there, things work out, I beleive you can find someone online. But if you never see or meet them, then whats the point? As for me after what happened, I strictly believe it better to find that special someone face to face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA female reader, anonymous thank you for sharing the story of your friend and glad to hear someone made it :) best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Angzw thats wonderful on finding your fiance online and every in other country! Wow! :) I am so glad it is possible to make it. Its just finding someone to make it work is the probably. My LDR boyfriend whom I've met online recently broke up with me after 5 months. He says he is a realist and knows people who it doesnt work out for. So it can be done and has been done just need to make it work. Thank you for your response
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): I agree with Angzw. I did however read an article recently which said online dating was something that people found less successful than other types of dating but then that was based on a sample of women so it's not conclusive I geuss. A friend of mine met her husband online. She had split up with a long term partner and was terribly upset so she joined an online site and met a guy who came over to see her in Londn from the US - then she went over there and within a year they were married. They're now happily married and living in California! I've met some ok guys online actually and I was very suspicious at first. You can meet a dodgy guy in the pub just as easily as you can meet one online! Good luck x
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reader, Angzw +, writes (6 March 2010):
I think your chances of finding real love online have the same odds as in real life. That is, there are at least 10 frogs for every prince you meet. The advantage online is that many more people are available to you and you can prescreen before you have your time wasted. Disadvantage is that you can be lied to by some conman who isnt who he says he is. So landline phone and skype before meeting is essential. All the men I have dated in the last 3 years I have met online including my current fiancé who is a 10 hour flight away on another continent! So while the commute is expensive for now, it has worked for me.
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