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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am due to move in with my boyfriend of 1 year in the next few weeks. I have been really excited up until about 3 weeks ago and now I am petrified!!! So many things have gone wrong which are making me worried that they are signs that moving is a bad idea. Two different people who are working on our house, i.e decorators, have tried commiting suicide, one of which actually died. People have fallen out and lots of things have gone wrong. My mothers neighbour had a break in yesterday and now im worried about leaving my mother. All signs seem to be pointing towards not moving! We are arguing more than ever over ridiculous things and I am so worried I shouldn't be moving in! Is this just nerves? Or shall I listen to the signs and not move?? I am also having doubts about my relationship at the moment too. Can somebody please advise me on this???? I have a lot to lose if this goes wrong but my partner will freak out if I try and put it off due to the money he has spent doing the house up for us. Please help? All opinions welcome
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Bad things always happen. While you were typing your question millions of people unknown to you died all around the world.
Instead of focusing on that, focus on what you need. If you move in with this guy, can you move out again if it's not working out? Do you have an escape plan? A disguise? A getaway car in case you need one?
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reader, sex-slave +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Moving in with out getting married increases the chance of you never getting married to him mainly if a baby comes into the picture, he may leave... Its quite common unless your married... I really suggest not moving in, it may help the relationship. If he is worried about the money he spent on the house if you have a job stay with your mom while helping to pay for the house if its needed till you get married. It is a proven fact that, a higher % of people who move in with each other don't stay together unless they are married first. So thats my suggestion if you love the guy and he is ready for that comment and so are you get hitched and then move in with each other.
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