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writes: When a man has sex with a women he is not in love but knows her very well, is it a different experiance to making love or having sex with his wife?What is the difference to a man emotionally in having casual sex. Sex is meaningful to women - is it to men?This may sound like a silly question, as I understand that there is a physical element not to be dismissed - BUT does a man feel anything emotionally for the other women, are there any feelings, especially if he knows her well???
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): Men can separate sex and love. Period.
Men can like a sex partner the same way they "like" the mailman or something. Having sex with a woman is not necessarily a demonstration of any stronger link than not having sex with her.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Yes usually most men would feel some kind of affection, compassion and care towards the women he has sex with. And most men do not feel that by having sex he is using the women, a man can have sex with a women he knows, still take her as a normal friend and keep his respect towards her and all that without love...
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 There are two things I could say about this.
1-Some men do separate their feelings between sex and love. Most do actually.
2-A man could develop feelings for a mistress. Rarely are they feelings of deep love. More like a really dear friend that you have sex with, BUT will never be more than a friend he makes love too. In cases where he does fall in love, a man usually will STILL not wreck his marriage. The legal and financial consequences make it too unbareable for him. Until the law chances, men will likely stay were they are.
3. They only time a man leaves his wife is when it involves things that have NOTHING to do with his mistress.
Hope this answers your question.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, love-him  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Hey babe, sex, feels like sex, however if you are in a relationship with someone and you believe you are in love, then it is love making, if it is just casual sex, then i dont believe men feel love, because they aren't in love. I hope i helped :) Feel free to mail me about anything :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): For your first question, doesn't sex feel distinctly different for any person that you are with? I would guess if a man is sleeping with both his wife and another women then it is likely to be different. But then again that is only a guess - surely it depends on what his relationship to sex is?
There is no way your other answers can be answered with a yes or no as, that would just be over-generalising. The answer completely depends on the man and his relationship with each particular women.
You say "Sex is meaningful to women" - that sounds like a stereotype to me. You seem to assert that women equate meaningfulness to sex, but you also infer that sex is not meaningful to men. Is that your view of men and women?
There are plenty of women who get involved in casual sex and don't form emotional bonds. Equally, there are plenty of men who have casual sex and do form emotional bonds.
You don't ask a silly question, but you are asking something that can only really be answered by the man in question. Only he knows the relationships he has with these women and how he really feels about them both.
If you are the women who is sleeping with the married man, it might help to frame the questions a little differently, and go in to specifics of your situation, rather than post hypothetical and vague questions.
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