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female
age
41-50,
*myblue
writes:Recently I got a new job, at my old job there was a guy who I really liked. The problem is that I am married (with major issues at home) and he used to date another girl at work who I am friends with. So I felt that it was just a fun little crush and didnt expect anything of it.After a time however we started talking to each other more and more and we really clicked. A lot of us went out for drinks one night and he and I got into a really long conversation about life. It wound up just being the two of us left there and although nothing happened there were definitely feelings there. The next day we had to say our goodbyes since I was leaving and I decided to just tell him how I felt, I told him I knew it was selfish because I didnt know where my life was going to but that I had to get it off of my chest. He smiled a lot but was having trouble responding to me (english is his second language so this is a common situation)the only time he interjected was when I said I knew he had feelings for the other girl at work. He said "what?!" as though that were insane. Although he was smiling the silence got uncomfortable for me so I just said "you dont have to say anything, I'm sorry, I didnt want you to be uncomfortable". Then he said "its hard when people leave" and that we could "email" and he started talking to me about my new job. I don't know what to make of this situation at all. Right now I'm trying to focus on what I should do with my current relationship but this all keeps nagging at the back of my mind. Do you think there is a chance for me with this person?
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reader, muffy +, writes (30 March 2008):
 hi hunny.well,you told him how you feel which means that yer options are open.Like,he could be thinking about it and now that he knows how you feel then you might just be the one he chooses.i think you have a chance.If you can have a good long conversation with someone then thats a good sign.but make sure he knows that yer married but have problems,so he doesnt get hurt too.
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love always
muffy
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