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writes:Do you think that telling him what he did wrong will make a difference?Don't want to bother with details, but a few weeks ago my bf tried to break up with me for things that I had been doing that hurt him. I didn't know that these things bothered him and for months he didn't tell me - he only told me when it got to be too much for him. So of course I don't want to hurt my sweety, so I apologized and became more aware. But instead of taking this into account, he's been very passive aggressive and judgmental of me and difficult - for things I did back in Septmber or Oct or even earlier. Finally I got so upset that I broke up with him and he just took this as "proof" that people never change. I have to see him later today to get my stuff back and I would like to tell him that I'm breaking up with him b/c he won't give me a fighting chance not b/c I'm always looking for attention (which is what he's claiming). Makes sense.. will it get through to him? should I even bother?
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reader, Miss. Courtney +, writes (21 November 2009):
Definitely... Communication is the only way to survive any relationship and even if it doesnt work out then at least you tried.. explain to him that its not fair for him to stay with you and not even give you a chance... if he is still an ass then he has other reasons for leaving or whatever you did is too big for him to get over.
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