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writes:I'm not really sure if my teacher is interested in me and I really need to find out. I'm going to say right now that I do NOT have a crush on him, i'm just wondering if I need to back away or not. For staters, he talks to me for as long as he can. Even if teachers come in for meetings, he still trys to hold a conversation. Also, he remembers all of our inside jokes, and brings them up almost everytime we talk. He teases me all the time and has a nickname for me. Not only this, but he was saying that other teachers know that we have a "good relationship." Also,there was this one time, my friend and I were talking to him and she ran up and hugged him. Then he turns to me and say's "(my name) is too cool to hug me now that she has a boyfriend." My friends said that he obviously wanted a hug, what do you all think? I just think it's amazing how he notices all this stuff, my friend has a boyfriend as well but I guess she doesnt catch his eye or something. Please help me out. I need to know if it seems like he likes me, or is he just being friendly, what do you think he thinks of me? any answers will helpthanks
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (22 September 2007):
 You are treading very shaky ground here. Teachers are supposed to keep themselves somewhat distanced from their students at least emotionally.
It used to be that a teacher that was "touchy feely" could play with the children or rough house with them etc. without any reprocussions. However, times have changed and so have the rules.
No matter how much a student may like a teacher, the teacher is supposed to quell any advances on any kind by a student.
This doesn't always happen. Just check the news. There are too many teachers now having sex with their 13 year old students and up, both male and female.
And no matter how many of them get caught it doesn't seem to slow others down.
The point I am making is that he could very well like you or mabe he just likes the idea of liking you. Maybe he likes the attention you give him and perhaps it flatters him.
In any case, it would be in your best interest (and his)if you just don't go down that road. If something were to happen and you did end up in a relationship with him and someone found out about it (which almost always happens) not only his reputation would be soiled but yours as well, not to mention the fact that he would be brought up on charges. I sincerly hope this helps. Doc.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (18 September 2007):
 He does show signs of having a crush on you, but then again, Im only seeing one side of the coin. I cant say if he really does like you that way (no facial gauge), but he sure sounds like a flirty guy. He seems the sort of person who loves giving attention and getting it back, even if he knows it isnt going to get far with it.
Having said that, you should be aware of the fact that he is a flirty guy. The more you feed him with flirts, the more you're gonna receive in return. You say you havent got a crush on him, but I think deep down you do enjoy the attention you're getting from him, which of course is natural, although you havent YET developed a crush on him. Just be careful of the repercussions if you lead him on too much, or vice versa. Its better to back away from it now (especially when you havent yet eveloped any feelings for him) than to get into all sorts of unnecessary trouble later on. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Hi Love,
By the sounds of things I'd say yep he is being quite flirty for a teacher, And as you said you do not have a crush on him, Sometimes people get the wrong idea when we are just talking and if other girls just randomly run up and hug him it sounds as if he loves his job a little to much for the wrong reasons. (If ya get me)
The attention from an older male can be flattering hun but try and keep your distance, people talk, Even teachers and your friends also. It can get around so fast that something is going on, And that is most def not the case, Take a wide berth on this one say hi so you dont appear rude, but leave it at that...Im guessing that if he is doing this with you love he may have tryed this before with other girls, You sound on the ball others may not be so clued up.. Its not the kind of way a teacher should behave and he could get in2 real trouble...HOPE THIS HELPS HUN TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 Do yourself and him a favor...start putting distence between the two of you. Limit your interactions to ONLY what you must talk to him for.
Becuase you already think he likes you, (and assuming you told some friend/s) if you do not start to limit contact, you can EASILY be accused of tempting him, or leading him on in the event this situation escalates to something very unpleasant. Your safety, and your rep could be very damaged.
Start putting distence today and please be careful.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Gemini1506  +, writes (15 September 2007):
I think he may like you in that way.
If you can tell him that you think his intentions with you are inapprioate. If he denies this then apologies but say you do feel uncomfortable at times and could he tune it dwn a little.
If you cant tell him speak to another teacher you can trust.
If he dont back of then you should further action
best of luck
xx
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 September 2007):
He seems to have a weak pesonality. His duty is to resist temptation of schoolgirls like you. You are leading him into a situation that may destoy his life.
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