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writes:I'll try to keep this as short as I can because I know, a lot of agony aunts or uncles must be fed up of the classic "does my teacher fancy me?".Well, basically I'm 16, from 13-14, i had a crush on her, but i got over it,I hadn't accepted that I was bi, and the idea of fancying a teacher disgusted me a bit. then not long before I was 15, I accepted that I was bi and attracted to her, BIG MISTAKE, didn't stop myself. lust eventually turned to love, and I just spent the rest of that year secretly longing for her. The Hard part is, everytime I tried to move on, she did things which made me think, "maybe she DOES have feelings for me". I'll give you a few examples of the not necessarily the things which change my mind, but things which make me think that in generalThings like giving me her mobile number(which is actually breaking the rules),calling me "my dear" sometimes,letting me get away with anything and everything from chewing gum, having my phone in school, never handing in homework, always being late, etc. and if anyone else dare do that she's really strict with them, if i break the rules she just smiles at me.I should actually be disqualified from all my GCSEs for taking a phone into an exam, but instead she disqualified this other girl who confessed aswell.Also she's quite jealous and critical of my friend who's a lesbian, whenever she sees us together she has a massive go at her usually sends her to the Heads office for something she supposedly did. She'll put her hand on my shoulder,back or wherever or hug me when given the opportunity, in lessons, she'll sit on my desk, and sometimes I'll just turn to find her hovering really close to me, she's always having a go at somebody for something but the only lectures I get from her she tells me I'm "the best I've ever had" and winks at me, then says i'm not meeting the deadline or whatever. I think she knows I'm bi or thinks I'm gay because I hang around with a lesbian sometimes and once we were talking about food and she kind of almost whispered to me "I know you like sweet things" if theres no innuendo thats kind of a wierd thing to say, also when she wears something with a low collar she sometimes bends over my desk a lot.It's complicated really because she trusts me and desn't treat me like a student, more like an assistant or a friend even. Since my 16th Birthday, I've noticed her being like this EVERYTIME i see her. before she'd try to treat me a bit more like a student.So do you think she has feelings for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): listen. im 15 and straight and i can tell you that most of my teachers treat me like this. its not because im gay or theyre gay, its because im nice to them and im a very helpful person. maybe she just sees you in the same way. if i were you id just try and get over it. we all have crushes on our teachers but we have to know the boundaries. hope this helped. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Because you like her it could be you are reading more into what she says that what she really means.
It would be wrong of her to start a relationship with a schoolgirl. You are under age. Stick to friends your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): maybe the sweet things wasn't an inuendo maybe she was just sayin it cos most people your age like sweet things. maybe your just the teachers pet i had a friend that could get a way with anything because her and the teacher were always chatting about things.
and perhaps she doesn't realise she's bending over your desk although yeah it's a bit odd when all them things come together maybe you could try telling her your bi and if she could give any advice to you for telling your parents then if she says anything else you think is really odd then you'l know if she feels anything.
or send her a text you do have her mobile number and it would make it a lot less embarasing for you
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reader, agtorange  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I'd just take Phil's advice and ask her. Quickest way to find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): It sounds like it but this is a potentially dangerous situation. It's illegal for her to have a relationship with you as she is an authority figure (she teaches at the school that you attend.)
How old is she?
Technically if she's not too old and she works at a different school then a relationship would be OK.
However she has also broken the law about the GCSE mobile phone incident. Don't tell anyone now because you weren't using the phone in the exam (I assume anyway!) but she really shouldn't have done it so she needs to make sure she doesn't do it again or that nobody finds out or she could get sacked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): I've no idea, but perhaps it would be a good idea to get her on her own and tell her that you're bisexual, and ask her does she fancy you as much as you fancy her.
Being a teacher, I'm sure she'll give you an honest reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): yes I'd say but maybe ur exageratin or sumfin n maybe ur thinkin that these events mean more. I was in an almost identical situation n i kissed her to find out... Bad idea. It revealed yes she had feelings but feelings she wasn't prepared to act on or lose her job, family n life for. I'd say just enjoy the curiosity n flirtation if the situation. Don't look into it too deeply. Once u leave school feelings dnt go away but thy reduce n eventually fade. Dnt act on it!!!
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