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female
age
30-35,
*ofialoren
writes:We are both in uni in Europe (different countries). We meet once in a while and I am crazily in love with him and it seems its the same with him. He keeps flying down to visit me and he's coming to mine tomorrow. He's a little older than me.We talk a lot on the phone- a lot. He is lovely. Sometimes when he talks to me, he's chatting on facebook and once I asked him who it was and mentioned this exchange student girl.Today he mentioned he was chattting with her again and joked she was very pretty. I had a look at her picture- she's horrible. Im not being mean but she is quite ugly. My boyfriend is quite sarcastic as in he'll someone is very pretty if she's not. Thats how he talks.He skates professionally. And I was checking up on this girl and I found out she skates as well and is a little older than me- she's in between our ages.I am really scared. She mentioned how she went somewhere on her facebook status and my boyfriend replied- Oh that was great. How did go? I am scared. Does he like her? I would plunge into some crazy sort of depression if I found out later he was cheating on me. What do you think? Are they just friends? Maybe they skate together? I dont care as long as hes not cheating on me. I cant deal with that.Also he's flying down tomorrow. I can't ask him this. I dont want him to know that I snoop around.I am so upset :( :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Sometimes men do things like deliberately make us jealous in order to see where they stand with us. It is important NOT to show ANY signs of jealousy. DO NOT BRING IT up. ACT LIKE THIS UGLY girl doesn't exist. Rememebr he is coming down to see you and taking a plane in, that takes a lot of effort on his part and if he's telling you about her, there's PROBABLY nothing. If he was porking her he probably wouldn't tell you. But you never know........
Next time he talks about her, casually mention you have this guy who keeps trying to ask you out at the groccery store. And he won't let up. And you think its so cute that he's so enamoured by you then watch his reaction. if your man's really in love with you, he'll get jealous and he'll never mention this girl again.
Possibly he mentions her because he knows he'll get a rise out of you. And stop snooping around, it will only make you upset. If you don't trust your man, stop sleeping with him and casually talk with him about it. Or move on
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