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Do you think my ex wants to terminate our friendship as well???

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Question - (1 March 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 2 March 2008)
A female Canada, anonymous writes:

Hoping someone can help me out here. My boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago but we have remained casual friends, email occasionally but no physical contact. He emailed me today and said since he had been nothing but problems for me (not really) he could offer me nothing. He does not want to hurt me so can offer me nothing. I am suspecting he wants to terminate the friendship which really hurts. Any thoughts on if people think that's what going on and how I can get past this.

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A female reader, onlinecounsellor_Dale Australia +, writes (2 March 2008):

onlinecounsellor_Dale agony auntHi

Ultimately, I guess you will have to accept it is his prerogative to end your friendship, if that is what he wants.

From your post, however, I can see that ending the friendship is clearly not your preference. Let him know that. Tell him that you value your past history together and your current email based friendship (if you do). Tell him that in your opinion the pros of continued contact outweigh the cons (if they do).

It may be helpful for you to also ask yourself what underlies your desire for continued contact. Are you fully 'over' your ex or is there a part of you which hopes you will get back together? If you do still 'carry a torch' for him, perhaps limited (or no) contact may even be best for you, and assist you to better move on from your romantic history.

Good luck! I hope you get the outcome you want.

Kind regards

Dale

www.daleecounsel.com.au

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