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writes:I'm a model signed to an agency in NY. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while now. Unfortunately when we first met, I had some insecurities which I regret mainly from the industry that is so heavily focused on appearance. When my boyfriend and I first met, he had an issue with cumming when we had sex. I tried everything, oral for 30 mins, sex with all different positions but it just didn't help. We spoke about it and he told me that it could be his masturbation technique which is squatting (in his culture, he grew up squatting to clean himself in the shower/most likely using public toilets as well) and that he used to watch porn and download it a lot. He has had very little real life sex experience too. I gave him my advice and said to refrain from porn and possibly try other masturbation positions as it's hard to then put that position into sex whereas if someone masturbated on their back and then had sex with the woman on top, they could most likely cum easily that way. I went through his laptop and found porn. I noticed he had downloaded while we were together and when he had that issue of being unable to cum. He was honest with me and told me that he did download porn then, had his dick out but did not masturbate to it. We got into an argument over this. Few months past, we are currently long distance for a little (roughly 2 months) while due to me modelling and him studying, however he will be staying with me for 3 weeks soonish.Something came up a week ago or so and he said that for the last month or so he has not masturbated at all and has definitely not watched porn. He said he wanted to show me as well but I declined. While this sounds believable as he had law exams, we speak every day and usually on the phone for a few hours, for a man I find this somewhat unbelievable. At the same time, I do trust him.He has been incredibly busy lately. He had his exams, he had to then go back to Uni which was in the UK, then he flew back for an internship in his home country (which he is currently doing) so it wouldn't be surprising but something.. at the back of my mind, tells me he is not being honest. P. s something aside, when we are together, we have amazing sex. He does not have the issue with cumming anymore. He can cum within minutes. He is grateful I have been able to help him overcome this.
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 I agree with YouWish (as I usually do!). It sounds like he has realised he had a problem and has changed his lifestyle to overcome it.
I'm not sure he would be able to go a whole month without masturbating if I'm being honest, but all the evidence suggests he has got his porn addiction under control and is saving himself up for you, with the positive results you describe in your final paragraph!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 While I *usually* say that you shouldn't believe him, the fact that you're NOW having amazing sex and he's rock hard DOES in fact show that he's curbed his addiction. That doesn't mean there haven't been slip-ups, or that he won't relapse, but don't hold that against him. He has made the lifestyle change from when it ran his life, and that's a good thing!
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