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writes:I recently told the guy I've been dating for 2 months that I wanted to stop seeing him for the time being. We got really intimate(but no intercourse) on the last date. Frankly he wanted more but I was not ready so we only masturbated each other. Do you think I've hurt his feelings by backing off from the relationship? I wanted the relationship to work but I felt it was too soon for sex. Does he only want sex from me as he hasn't made any effort to contact me ever since? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Maybe he is hurt, or maybe he just felt frustrated because you didn't agree to sex. But the most important point here is that you said you wanted to stop seeing him. "For the time being" is an indeterminate time; it can mean a few days, or can be a way to inform the man that he won't be seeing you again, ever. So, he is keeping his distance, as you asked him to.
If you want to see him again, you will have to talk first. I think you should be very sure of what you want by then. I don't think he would like it if, one more time, you agreed to mutual masturbation and then you said that there will be no sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Hey the sooner the better. If you dont feel you miss him or remorses that means there is no love .
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 April 2008):
You told him you wanted to stop seeing him, so of course he is going to think that is because of something he did or because you don't like him. He's going to be hurt.
You asked for space and he's giving you space.
It's up to you to get back in touch.
He may have cut his loses and moved on, or he may want to carry on seeing you.
Get in touch and explain why you called it off. Tell him you want this to be special and that you want to take things slowly.
Good Luck!! xx
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