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writes:...my whole life I have been pretty much on my own "emotionally" . I have always been the "go to" person ... The one who always finds a way to make it better for everyone. And, I can't tell you how many times I had to pick up the pieces and put everyone back together. I gues, someone had to. I never stopped to think or realize that all this time of fixing everyone else and allowing myself to be their "rock" or "sponge" or whatever you want to call it ... Well, most importantly, I never was able to be there for myself-- to take care of "me" and what I needed. As a result (and I'm not a psychologist) I never had a chance to become somebody. True, and seriously painful. As a result I never would allow anyone to get close... As I was always guarded and ready to "rumble" at any sign of threat. Anyway, (and, I'll get to my question) you can't go through life so "closed" -- it's really no way to live, but only a way to survive. It may have served it's purpose when it needed to. All I want to say ... If I can help one person and help them understand that I understand what they are going through -- then it was all worth it in the end. Just know that there are really "good" people who care, even when you DIDN'T see that they were there all along. Do you think it's too late to tell them? Especially, since you really were not very nice (and on more than one ocassion). Do you think that they would give you another chance? Or are some things better off left "unsaid"? Reply to this Question
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reader, Inallhonesty... +, writes (16 July 2010):
 You sound like a very selfless and giving person :) The world needs more of you.
I think this kind of thing could be said. It's not like it is anything hurtful right? You're telling them that you notice that they've been there and that they're appreciated. (Let me know if I'm misunderstanding.) Once you've expressed yourself, you'll feel that the weight is lifted off your shoulders, whether you're unsure of how they'll take it. I'm sure they'll appreciate it...even if they don't, you let them know and you did your part.
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